Sometimes our loved ones tell us what they wish they had some thoughtful actions from us, but for whatever reason, we either do not hear them or we have our mind on something else and we forget it was ever mentioned. For someone to be a little thoughtful towards us is something we all need sometimes in life. It will make your relationship and your life in general, more positive and a better place to be.
Thoughtfulness doesn’t require anything more than acknowledging something that’s important to the one you love. Maybe your loved one has had a bad day at the office. Offer your empathy, say that you are aware of how hard work can be, and let your love know that you appreciate everything he or she does for you and your family. Those few words can help lift anyone out of a potentially uncomfortable emotional spiral. At the same time, thoughtfulness also means truly hearing what your loved one says to you. If they open up to you about something that’s hurting him or her, or causing a little stress, be sure you’re actually listening, not just hearing them. Your loved one always wants to know that you care about what’s going on in their life.
True thoughtfulness comes from deep inside of your heart. When you really, really, love someone, you want them to know it; those acts of thoughtfulness (no matter how small) are a great way to show that you care. Your love will feel it in a way that will deepen the intimacy in your relationship. There are so many different ways to show you care, and one of the best is a simple reminder that you love them. Saying “I love you” is not only thoughtful but also reinforcing the relationship between the two of you. This will make your loved one feel better, no matter what is going on.
You can also send love notes or leave love notes in hiding spaces, take your love out on the town, or cook something tasty, so you can both relax and feel special together. All of these are thoughtful actions. My fiance leaves me little notes in my purse all of the time. Sometimes I don't notice them for a couple of days, but when I do, it always makes me smile. Then there are the really little things, such as saying “Bless you” when your love sneezes or dropping what you are doing, so you can help the one you love find something that is missing. These are tiny but true acts of love.
When someone is thoughtful enough to be there for you through the little inconveniences that life throws at us, you can pretty much count on that person being there for you when you really need him or her. There is nothing more comforting than having the love of your life by your side when everything is going wrong.
One of the best parts of thoughtfulness is that you will feel as great (if not greater) than the person you are being thoughtful toward. The real beauty is that this the more you do it, the stronger it gets. Knowing that you have a thoughtful lover makes getting through those rough patches in life much easier, because you know that your their love will be there, no matter what.
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