Most first date conversation starters revolve around the typical and tell you very little about who you are interacting with. People tend to get really nervous, not knowing what to expect so they go to default.
What's your age? Occupation? Favorite Food? Education? Boring and Un-insightful.
Typical questions will yield typical answers and if you are looking for a deep relationship, you have to go deeper.
Here are a few that may get you a little further. Choose things most people think about but rarely get asked. These should help you get that person to open up and feel like you are interested in them while in turn will cause them to be more interested in you.
1.) If work was no longer an option and you had plenty of money, what would you do all day/month/year?
2.) What makes you feel great about yourself? (It could be an activity, thought or compliment.)
3.) What’s the worst advice you’ve gotten… but you actually followed?
4.) What long shot have you taken that really paid off?
Other Tips!
Be personable friendly and engaging. Everyone loves to talk about themselves and these can give some funny answers and situations that can loosen the tension of first dates.
Keep eye contact appropriately. No creepy stares. Be in the moment.
That means listening and not just telling them what they wan to hear or parroting. Know that you have a lot of offer and be confident.
Lastly, enjoy yourself. Dating is not supposed to be filled with pressure. Have fun and be open.
