No need to worry. Your inability to find the right words does not make you less appealing. It does say a lot about you though. As an INFJ I have struggled my whole life in every social situation. It's not I don't want to say anything but more of a conscious awareness of emotions and how the words I speak often get taken the wrong way. Though my intentions are almost solely for the benefit of all parties involved. Introverted people tend to operate on a much more intellectual and spiritual level than extroverts. This often leads to awkward silences between the two types which makes the introvert feel as though they have done something wrong whilst the extrovert tends to think the other is just weird... But the awesome thing is that you just have to find your inspiration. I love writing now. I can express myself without the awkward silence. I can be myself instead of who society would prefer. Long story short. Just be yourself. I love the psychology of personalities. I could talk for days about this subject. If you want to answer the questions of why you are the way you are I can tell you where to start.
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