All I can tell you is that after many years of searching I found the right woman for me, and it was obvious straight away. 14 years later its better than when we started.
Dont settle, if she doesnt get your humour, move on. Its not you, its not her, its just how this stuff works.

You cant force life, we have this idea that we are in charge, but you cant make yourself meet a compatible person, you just have to wait til' it happens, then recognise it when it does and put everything into it.