Naturally sometimes, we cling to something that we do not like for the fact of giving pleasure to others, especially your parents ... I think you always have to do what we like, something we feel comfortable with. .. we will always get used to a routine, but whenever you do not like it you must have the courage to stop and say: Enough is enough! and do what you love most. It costs a lot and we even feel strange when we abandon that "bondage" but it is the best for our wellbeing ... being free is the best thing. Good post friend @amiramnoam, best regards.
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Completely according to @rosquilla, especially because I am a living example of what it explains. I studied a career that I did not like just because my parents were afraid to send me to study abroad. During the University I obtained good grades but I always felt that this was not my thing. The best thing I got from this experience were the friends I met and that there I found the one who is now my husband.
Once graduated I had jobs that caused me a lot of stress (because I demanded a lot) and this definitely was not good indicative. But ... and see that there is always a but in life, teaching came to my life (and although I taught in the area where I graduated, interdaction with students made me happy).
Today after 18 years of graduation and 15 giving classes I can say that I still love the feed-back inside the classroom, although I have understood that I have not totally given what makes me completely happy. I am in that search, but see how it is necessary to go through what we went through to understand what makes us unhappy or simply to go prepare and become stronger until we find what we are looking for.
We are told to go to school, go to college, get a job, get married, get kids, retire. And we do it without knowing why. Great comment @rosquilla, following YOU!
Don't get married! That's the best advice I can give you. It took being married for me to become against marriage, but oh my gosh, don't do it. Marriage ruins a relationship. You will be much happier with your significant other if you don't say "I do." You will also be keeping the state out of your personal relationship, which is always a good thing.
wise words, steph! i agree that marriage is a destroyer of relationships. it makes people complacent and lazy. in my relationship, i actually asked him to be my boyfriend (!) -- not forever, just for the summer... and at the end of the summer, we reevaluated and recommitted. now we do that at the end of every season, but without assuming the answer will be yes! it keeps us on our toes, and keeps us in an constant state of courtship! we've done this every season for 8+ years so far, and i must say, it seems far more fun to be his girlfriend than a "wife." i really value that we both want to be with each other forever, and yet don't feel the need to externally validate it with a marriage license. it's so freeing...
What a wonderful idea. All of the commitment and companionship with none of the obligation. Everyone should do this. The world would be a much happier place.