I'm not too sure dude. My Dad can be blamed for a lot of things, I mean he effectively destroyed my childhood when all my Mum wanted to do is raise a kid to be loved, in our dynamic you'd be right, it was mostly my Dad that was to blame, but I've worked a lot in the Mental Health sector; ended up in senior management before I gave that up to seek my riches, and what I can universally state is that I've seen too much horrors from both men and women. I really can't pin the blame on one sex.
My idea is working together to create a better life!
I agree with you both are to blame, but fathers are responsible for us as men, and I feel that they are to hold accountable. As you said it "It's really not Mum's fault though, I mean she only knew how to teach me to be a woman because she is one."
Yup. Mum still made the choice to stay with Dad though, even though she knew she had many warning signs. I just can't see blame as a healthy thing! Not in my opinion, anyway :)
Once you have your book it'd be an interesting read, I'm always up for being proved wrong :)
The study I write will be in Serbian, but I'll translate it as a summary, and post it as soon as I publish it.