You can say what I need to hear, but wait my pain decrease

There are situations that call for understanding and so only silence, nothing more than that. Any word will then serve only as a guilt and impotence weight to join the emotional pieces where the other is.

It is very common for people, even the closest, speak what the other less need to hear and at the most inappropriate. Although act with good intentions, wanting the best, end up doing producing the opposite effect, leaving everything worse and more difficult. We all need to hear the truth and receive the necessary hardness, so that we can see more clearly, but everything has the right time, both praise and criticism.

Many times, the eagerness to help and encourage those who we love very much, we chose the wrong words, the tone was inappropriate and the worst time for speaking to him. Just as well, offering the opposite of what he was stating, because there are situations that require only understanding and silence, nothing more than that. Any word then will serve only as a burden of guilt and powerlessness to join the shards emotional in that the other is.

One way of trying to help people with more coherence is in putting in place, wondering how we would be if we were going through it, realizing what could be wanting, of which we would exactly need and, especially, what do we want to hear from anyone. And, when we are very close to the person, the bottom know how she must be feeling really and certainly we can help her in the best way.

It is worth remembering that the other is not obliged to feel things as we want or how we feel. Ask what the other is unable to give at that moment sounds nothing less than cowardice or insensitivity. In fact, we might even try to imagine the pain he feels, but never be able to be sure of the real dimension of darkness beyond. Each one knows where and how life hurts you and nobody else.

And that is all that relationships are made of moments in which we smile together and others in which we suffered severally, because having someone beside while disassemble inside will make all the difference in our lives. In addition, we have the decency to know when we can rebuke, animate, shake or just welcome to silently another in love reassuring that we all have within us.