My condolences for the loss of a dear friend!
That is a good question to ask -

how would you like to be remembered?

I was just thinking of the question -

What if you lived each moment as if it were your last?

Would you be doing what you are doing if you knew it was your last moment? That kinda ties in to what do you want to be remembered for - if you have that in mind, than incorporate that in your life so you are doing or being what you want to be remembered for you would probably live a richer fuller life!