Sounds horribly lonely and a crazy rabbit hole to go down. At the same time this shows that most people have a ways to go to truly be a good friend to the significant people in their lives.

Most friends will offer advice on what to do but the best friends are the ones who rather just ask questions so you come to a conclusion in your own mind rather than listening what you ought to do.

It's the whole "make them think it was their idea" phrase or whatever.