If you want to live a happy life, you have to quit trying to control these two things:
1. The past.
2. The way people feel about you.
You cannot control the past, so stop worrying over it. Learn from it and move on.
You cannot control the way people feel about you. You can't control hate or love. For these reasons, you cannot please everyone because people judge you not necessarily based on who you are or what you did, they judge you based on how they feel about you.
If someone loves you, he will hardly find faults in you. But if a person hates you, anything you do will be seen in the negative by the person. Don't allow things like this bother you. Don't worry about things you can't control. However, it is your duty to work on those things under you. You can control how you react to people in spite of their opinion of you. You cannot control what is in the past, but you can control how you react to it.
What other people feel about you doesn't matter all. Quit trying to make people love you. You cannot stop them from hating you. You cannot stop people from talking behind you. You can't stop them from backbiting. But you can choose to be happy and stay positive in spite of what they think, say or do.
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This is well thought out, I must say....
A wise man once told me;
when you see that other people don't care about you, then don't let that attitude control who you are! Keep on doing what you do best.
That wise man also said to me that the past is like mud, if you remain in it and decide to go back to it, thou will stumble and slip.
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A motivating comment as usual! Thank you for reading @udezee.
You always give important information. thank you so much.
Thank you for reading.
If the first place why trying to please or make others love you when those who you are trying to please don't even think about you. Well I just have to please myself don't take any shit what anybody think about me. I do my things my way.
You always say the truth @ogoowinner.
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The past holds a very important part in every human life. The past should be used to correct error and make necessary adjustments in the present/future.
We can't stop a child from smiling same way we can't stop people from backbiting or gossip. People only talk about you when you are somebody, they see you as a competition trying to beat you. But when you are in competition with yourself to do or be better, it results to gossips behind you cos they wish to be in your spot.
One can only bring himself/herself happiness when he/she pays no attention to side talks and live free.
You are right @yungchief. Thank you for reading.
We just can't please everybody, some hating on you for no just reason. And even friends, especially, when you're ahead of them. So I agree with you, staying positive and being happy is the right attitude to live a worry-free life.
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we can control ourself and it we are strong we can change anything
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There is actually a way you can control the past, and the way is
Forget about it and concentrate on the now!
Use the the past as a ladder to climb to a new phase of life
@ogoowinner great content, this will help will people to be free from high blood pressure.
Lol! We all need to be free from it! Thanks for your comment here @eprolific.
People never get satisfied, if we keep trying to please them we will lose ourselves. But when we be ourselves, we attract people that are meant to be in our lives..
That's true my dear. Thanks for your comment here @nmalove.
Like i always say "let your love for youself be the first and most important thing in to you,and let every other thing be secondary....very motivating
Thank you.
Very true. No point beating yourself up over something you have absolutely no power over. The irony actually is that when you focus on the things you do have control over, the things beyond your control begin to have less impact on the outcomes you get. No single human is immune to uncontrollable factors yet some get to make something great out of their lives. What matters is not what happens to you but your response to what happens.
This is an awesome contribution. Our response to what happens to us is what matters. Thank you for reading my post @smyles.
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Trying to please a human is the worst thing on earth because whether you like it or not, people will surely say what they feel like about you.
Your first benefit should be yourself
Thanks @ogoowinner for this
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you're certainly spot on, I guess I woke up on the right side of the bed, because this us truthfully motivating
Sometimes hatred blinds people from seeing the good in you, I tried controlling the past by making some people rethink how the feel about me but they only went on hating me.
This is amazing, I'm glad I read
I'm glad it is valuable! Thanks for reading @josediccus.
Self love, is the real and big deal. Noone can love me like I love myself. Loving oneself should come first and other form of love or concern about hatred may follow.
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we can control ourself and it we are strong we can change anything
I have this quote that I use to guide my dealings with everything and it is almost the same as the title of your post
Very good post
Trying to please Someone is not always work out, man will surely display their true character later.. try your best and leave the rest.. thx for share @ogoowinner
I find this post worthy of resteem. It is also very timely. Something happened in service today that makes me feel unhappy, but seeing this post and reading it has lightened things up for me. No matter how hard you try to please humans, they will always pick out the mistakes you make along the way. Humans are quick to condemn than commend. Thank you so much for sharing.
great post agree with you perfectly @ogoowinner!! there are certain things we can't control as you have mention. Accept the fact that you can't control everything. The only thing you can control 100% of the time is your attitude. Thanks for sharing my friend.