Dear Girls..
Here are the most important things we need to do before you committed to marriage, its my own opinion as single woman based on reading books and hearing some true story from my friends who are married, fyi woman here in Indonesia mostly get married in age 18-25 years old, most of them are not mentally and financially well prepared.
First, we need to be able to take care of ourselves, and be happy. getting married and expecting the man to make you happy is the perfect recipe for disaster. if you are not happy with yourself, no one can make you happy. not even loving husband or children.
second, we need to sort our shit out. know your dragons and demons, you fears and insecurities, your traumas and insanity. you have to learn how to deal with your own shit, because marriage will push you to the edge and drive you and your partner crazy. believe me!!
so let's thinking again, are you ready for marriage or just a wedding??
let me know your opinion in the comments.
don't forget, let's spread love and good words.
Very good point; they should understand who they are and how to best strive through, independently. Be mentally and spiritually prepared before engaging in a marriage .
yes, these points are important especially here, because most woman prepare only for wedding, which is not important, and mostly they want to get married because they hope if their husband will make them happy.
Yeah indeed heh.
They have to learn how to be good mother and good wife.
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if they are a good happy person, they will become a good happy wife and mother, but not all woman are want or ready to be a mother, for so many reason. some are also choose to be childfree. whatever it is, just be done with themselves first. thank you for your comment here.
First they have to learn how to be a good and responsible person. A status of a mother and a wfe is later to be acquired; and is indeed a recipe for disaster if they have no clue what they're doing and who they are. Look at all those oppressed women in islamic culture, those poor ladies can't and aren't allowed to even think for themselves. They're so low regarded in society, @coretan.alsara , that their opinion or testimony is irrelevant. A testimony of a man equals of a testimony of two women. So yeah, think for yourself, empower yourself and don't get crazy ;) .
I agree with u :)
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thank you for make it more clear @viog37, there are so many thinking and opinion in my mind that i want to write here, but as beginner writer, it's not easy to make it become some paragraph.
The key is persistence and perseverance. Keep doing what you like to do, i will be behind, guiding :) .