How to Be Happy

#Find out what to do first:

It's very important that how are you supposed to build the right happiness skills if you don't know which ones you are struggling with in the first place? This is why it's helpful to take a quiz to explore your happiness strengths and weaknesses (link is external). Get a better understanding of what these skills are all about, and learn how to improve upon your weaknesses and build your "happiness strengths."

#Don’t start with profundities:

When I began my Happiness Project, I realized pretty quickly that, rather than jumping in with lengthy daily meditation or answering deep questions of self-identity, I should start with the basics, like going to sleep at a decent hour and not letting myself get too hungry. Science backs this up; these two factors have a big impact on happiness.

#Do let the sun go down on anger:

I had always scrupulously aired every irritation as soon as possible, to make sure I vented all bad feelings before bedtime. Studies show, however, that the notion of anger catharsis is poppycock. Expressing anger related to minor, fleeting annoyances just amplifies bad feelings, while not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate.

#Fake it till you feel it:

Feelings follow actions. If I’m feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I’m feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.

#Live your values:

When you start to explore yourself and your values (link is external), you may discover that you've known all along what would make you happy, but you're just not doing it. To be happier, get clear on your values (link is external), so that you can live your life autonomously (link is external), according to your own principles and values.

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