I'm a woman and I face the opposite problem. People often remark that I'm too bossy and strict, because I say things directly, frankly, without softening them.
I never have a problem with man telling me how they feel and I try to talk very openly about how I perceive and feel about world. Unfortunately some of them don't want to talk about deep topics, they only want to talk the usual way. But some - as my boyfriend - are not like that, and I love the discussions and openness of our relationship.
Great insight! I think most women feel that way, or certainly the people that I read and talk with. Men just aren't brought up to talk openly about things - it's not "proper". Well fuck properness I say, I'd rather have my health that trying to hold society up on my shoulders :)