In his book entitled " High Maintenance Relationship " , Les Parrot III explains how we build relationships demanding with others . We met so many people of different character , temperament , even people who are impossible for us to invite good friends of those in the workplace , schools and even the environment in which we live . Often we complain about our relationships with other people compared with the income we earn. Apparently satisfaction in a relationship that will determine whether we like it or hate it.
A group of researchers has been studying an ancient mystery of the cause of human happiness in the broad sense . The answer is not as we had expected . Maybe there will be the answer to success, good looks, wealth and so on. However, according to the study of the most decisive of human happiness is a relationship with a fellow or an intimate relationship .
Parrot raises a problem as follows: " If the relationship makes us so unhappy , why do so many relationships it difficult for us ? And, importantly , what can we do to keep ourselves calm , unyielding , and find a positive way out when we 're in a relationship that is demanding the impossible ones it ?
We yearn for a relationship that is certainly not a lot of demand means that naturally relationship raises a match. Everyone certainly covet it . But there also are experiencing a demanding relationship . Relationships are demanding can be seen clearly when we are at the expense of our feelings .
Then the solution is how ? We can make demanding the relationship for the better . Parrot says , " The effort you put into improving the difficult relationship is almost always fruitful vitality and strength within you . " According to Parrot benefits include:
- Reduced concerns .
- Mind clearer .
- A more positive outlook .
- Understanding more powerful in terms of effectiveness.
- Excellent physical health .
- Improve your relationship and make your life more enjoyable .
Now it depends on us and we do not need to lose contact with the people are demanding . It MIGHT seem difficult, but it never hurts to try. More Parrot conclude kinds of relationships are demanding , Among other things :
- Critics are always complaining and give advice that is not expected.
- Martyr , always the victims and suffer from self-pity.
- Vandal excitement , pessimistic and negative feeling with him.
- Bullies, totally insensitive to other people.
- Gossip , spreading gossip and leaking secrets .
- Controllers , can not give freedom and stop worrying .
- Internal enemy , really duplicity .
- The cool , stay away and avoid contact .
- Spiteful , full of malice .
- The volcano , generate steam and ready to explode .
- Sponge , always need , but never returned .
- Competitors , remembering every detail .
- Hard worker , always urgent and never feel satisfied .
- Tempter , satire harassing .
- The chameleon , always wanting to please others and avoid conflict .
From the list at the top of course we frequently interact with the kinds of people who like it . How to cope? Evade or compromising the feeling ? None of them are . Uniquely first solution provided by Parrot to make the relationship more demanding it becomes better is UNDERSTANDING people who have all the 15 types of relationships . Understanding other people is a door that must be opened first before we go deeper in a relationship. It's tough, but we are among those who like it . Learn in advance to understand the other person , even if the person never understand us . When understand others means we are ensuring that our relationships with other people and we became the happiest person in the world. Why? Because we can interact, work together , run a hobby and a lot of things with people who are impossible .