You're right on all counts—people do respond differently. Hopefully, if they are friends of yours, you'll have a sense of the best way, whether through a card, or a phone call, etc.
And thanks for the affirmation. Especially if I know someone is not a Christian, I don't share biblical things. I support the person. I ask them how they're doing. I offer help and support. Thanks for the comment.
That is the kind and human thing to do.