ARE YOU THINKING OF GETTING MARRIED?

Marriage presents a challenge as well as an opportunity to experience a unique and special relationship.

Whether you are likely to have a traditional "organised marriage" where your parents make the initial selection, or you have the freedom to make the choice entirely on your own, you are still the one who must make the final decision because it's YOUR life.

The first step towards a happy and lasting relationship lies in choosing a partner who suits your unique personality and character. Like laying the foundations of a house, this choice can make or break the relationship.

If your parents or relatives are happily married, you will probably expect marriage to be a pleasurable experience. On the other hand, if you have known many unhappy marriages, you may have negative expectations or even wish to avoid marriage altogether.

However, it is possible to learn even from others' mistakes and you may be able to avoid several pitfalls, while picking up tips that can enhance your relationship.

Know yourself:-

You cannot assess another person's suitability in isolation from yourself. It's absolutely true that two incredibly great people can bring out the worst in each other if they are not well matched.

Research indicates that choosing a partner who has similar personality characteristics is likely to contribute to the success of your marriage.

Research on Personality Features.

When both partners had similar personality characteristics they were able to interconnect and express understanding and empathy in more acquainted ways.

Being married to similar person endorsed reliability in an individual's personality. On the other hand when partners were very different they were less satisfied with the quality of their married life and were also more likely to have marital problems.

Some studies presented that stability of marriage depended on:

The degree of likeness between the partners and the degree to which one partner could compensate for what the other needs.

(Based on research by Caspi and Herbener, Kurdek, Holden, Catell, Antill and others)

People are often attracted to those who are different from them. The difference may seem to add spice and interest to the relationship. However if the differences are too great there would be frequent clashes. At this point it would help to distinguish between complementary and contradictory characteristics.

If both partners enjoy company, but one person is very outgoing while the other is a little shy, this is complementary - one compensates for the other. But if one partner loves going to noisy parties and the other wants to stay at home, their needs are contradictory and there are likely to be many conflicts.

In order to be able to choose a partner who has similar characteristics, you need to have a better understanding of your own personality. So, first discover yourself. Have a happy findings…. :)