Hive Post Deleted - I No Longer Support This Blockchain
Hive Post Deleted - I No Longer Support This Blockchain
7 years ago in #life by kennyskitchen (76)
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Thank you for sharing this. I think some of us have shame around these topics but are too embarrassed to speak up due to fear of judgment from others. But the truth is if more of us spoke up about the truth, we would be healing a lot sooner and probably help others from going through this.
It’s really amazing how our desires are sometimes tainted by insecurities, shame, self doubt and resentment. Addictions and compulsive behaviors are always a sign that there is some healing that needs to be done and it’s awesome that you are giving yourself that.
I took two years off to do some self-healing and I came out totally transformed. I used to try to slight other people and come out on top of every situation by any means neccesary while patting myself on the back for any good deed and tellin* myself I was a good person when I was anything but. I was filled with self doubt and shame about being different and it had built up over years of hiding my desire to just be an artist and also feeling like I had failed myself. I don’t think I had any emotional issues stemming from ideas about sex but all that insecurity influenced those desires in a big way, led to compulsive thoughts, and also made me less honest and sincere with others than I wanted to be. This stressed caused by being who I wasn’t caused all kinds of physical problems that I am currently healing from.
You are doing great!
You are an inspiration to everyone here. There are so many people that are currently suffering from similar problems whether it is sexual shame, depression or addiction and hearing you talk about your healing process is so powerful for those that are looking for help. I have had family members and friends deal with issues similar to this and I know that reading your journey would have been extremely eye opening for them!
Keep on kicking ass and learning more about you! I love to hear about the self reflection and the steps that you are taking to heal! You have the entire Steemit community behind you and cheering you on! :)
I am to hear about the next chapter! :)
This is going to open a LOT of great doors for you Brother! Thanks for sharing!
I see them flying off the hinges all along the path in front of me :-) Just gotta keep refining my vision and intentions and follow spirit :-)
@kennyskitchen , Your Topic Regarding Healing Sexual Shame is Exiting i hopen your focus on it will be deep
If everyone would speak as frankly as you do, there's not much we couldn't come to understand.
Reminds me of a couple of things:
In a scene from Crocodile Dundee, the lady who came to interview him asked how they handled personal problems in such a small town. Dundee answered that someone would just tell the bartender and she'd tell the whole town, no more problem.
It's almost in the sci-fi realm that to this day, men and women don't understand each other. It's because they don't talk to each other frankly, they talk at each other. Neither side really acknowledging the other's nature nor respecting it.
There are thing that we did when we were kids that's somehow makes us realize what's right and wrong, disgusting and not. I think it's quite necessary in life that we make mistakes in order to learn something when we grow up.
Every one of us has a bleak past. Let the past be a memory, but it remains a valuable lesson to welcome a better future. Recognizing the bad and conscious actions to improve and not to repeat again is a very wise act. I salute those of you who share your experience of your past days, and you have tried to focus on healing. Keep trying and you will find a better way in your growing age. Wise people say, if at the age of 40 years we are not aware and do not want to change, then there will be no more changes. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Maybe people need accurate, balanced and comprehensive sex education from the earliest age, as recommended by the Sex Information and Education Council of the United States for more than 30 years. Just saying.
That doesn't really come anywhere near sexual trauma though, just the physical/biological aspects. The issue isn't so much a lack of knowledge about the topic, but the huge amount of trauma, abuse, and shaming that most children in the Euro-American world end up going through.
This touched my heart @keenykitchen so much so that I actually uttered those words at the end. You've answered a question I forgot I asked: why I lie so much. I wish I could tell you one on one, because you the only person who I've ever come to relate to about a sexual matter that I've only shared with the 2 people I ever had a relationship with. I just realized i this moment while typing why I've only had a relationship with only 2 people. I'm so glad I viewed this. I don't even know if I should thank you or find a way to board a plane to where you are. For now I will say this. Thank you Mr Kenny..
Thanks @kofibeatz! I'm so glad this resonated with you, and hope that my healing can be helpful & supportive of your own! Feel free to come one out to Austin for Voice & Exit this weekend :-)
I'm in South Africa, but when I have enough cryptos I'm there..
Going all out like that takes a lot of courage if you ask me. I am glad I decided to follow you, I might just learn a thing or two ✌️.
thank you for sharing this, growing up in Ireland any talk about sex was a taboo and for so long so many carried shame with them instead of feeling comfortable and supported in talking about our natural desires and sex itself. For me it took along time to shake off those feelings, i carried them like a heavy chain around me, but it is so liberating t let them fall and feel good about fully celebrating that we are very much sexual beings. Enjoy the 4 events you are going too x
POWERFUL. So brave to speak of something sooo important brother. This subject has been made to be so taboo in the culture, and yet it truly is every man's story. Honorable and courageous honesty, great love for you bro. I approach this very concept from the 'social engineering' aspect and effect. I can now understand how the entire society has been psycho-physiologically programmed to be in the exact mindset you are describing. Word for word my friend.
I will actually be doing most of my Steemit article work on this very subject.
Very good. Very important. Hats off to you my friend.
Hey Kenny, how do I contact you to arrange a delegation to your curation trail?
Discord = kennyskitchen #9057, Telegram = kennyskitchen