It can be incredibly frustrating when you are in a relationship with someone who goes out of their way to make you jealous. If it’s not a reasonable amount, it can be unacceptable in a relationship and cause a lot of harm.

Why She Might Be Doing It

She May Feel Neglected in the Relationship

Is it ideal? No, of course not.
It would be better if she were blunt about her feelings and just talked to you so you both could figure something out. However, out of some of the other reasons, this one is less harmful. Simply spending more time with her or figuring out a way to make her feel special may stop her in her tracks on this one.

She’s Testing You

I hate testing in a relationship. But the unfortunate reality is that we all test sometimes, even if it’s on a subconscious level. We test all the people in our lives, and this might be our way of confirming a current belief we already have about ourselves or the relationship at hand.

Unfortunately, if she truly believes you don’t care about her, even if you pass the test with flying colors, that underlying belief might still be there. And there might not be anything you can realistically do about it.

Sometimes testing can be as simple as her needing a bit of extra reassurance. Fine. But if it’s constant, there may be a larger underlying problem.

Insecurity and Low Self-Esteem

Sometimes it’s due to low self-esteem and her overall feeling of insecurity about herself. I know of some women who take this to an extreme level, causing immense suffering for the men they were dating.

Ideally, it’s something she is actively working on. If not, your relationship might be a constant roller coaster of stress and drama.

Unresolved Resentment

This could be a passive-aggressive way of addressing underlying issues, which is frustrating because you may have no idea why she’s acting like this or the purpose of it. Or it could be her way of punishing you and getting payback for anything she’s still upset with you about.

In this case, you could be more blunt with her and encourage her to directly bring up the issues so you both can work them out. If she’s doing it as a revenge tactic, this could be a huge red flag. She may not be good at communication or resolving conflict, and it’s more likely she’ll act this way in the future. You’ll want to be extremely careful in a situation like this.