My goal here isn't to shame you but to help you avoid habits that might make you come across as uninteresting on a date.
- Not Having Opinions of Your Own
You might think you're making a great first impression by agreeing with everything the other person says, but blindly agreeing with everything will not get you a second date.
It's important to strike a balance:
- Don't argue over everything (more on that below).
- It's okay to have a different opinion.
- It's okay to express your thoughts even if you don't know hers.
Why does this matter?
You want to be with someone who is tolerant. A slightly different opinion won't rule you out but will instead show that you're your own person. You don't want to come off as a pushover type of guy for her. A lot of women want a man that is confident. (Not arrogant)
- Don't Argue with Her Over Everything
We've all been around people who seem to disagree with everything to the point where it feels like you can't say anything without it turning into a debate. Often, these arguments end up being about shallow or boring topics like the best coffee flavor or the best hobby.
Here's the key:
- A light tease about these things is fine.
- Occasional discussions are okay, too.
But keep it within reason. Constant debating—even about trivial topics—can make you seem overly uptight or difficult to talk to. This can give off an exhausting or argumentative vibe, which is something most people want to avoid on a date.
- Always Doing the Exact Same Thing
This one hits close to home for me, and I'll call myself out here.
For neurodivergent people, this might be especially challenging. However:
- Don't fall into a routine of always doing the same thing.
- Avoid the opposite extreme of constant inconsistency, which can make you appear emotionally unstable.
It's not just about routines or habits; it's about how often you try something new.
Here's an example:
I wear the same outfit daily and eat the same foods most of the week. My hobbies—like hiking and running—stay consistent. But every now and then, I mix things up by traveling or trying something new, like horseback riding or going on a hot air balloon ride.
Why does this matter?
You don't need to do extravagant things all the time, but having new experiences can make you more interesting. Whether you've traveled, tried unique foods, or explored different activities, these moments give you something engaging to share. On the flip side, being closed-minded about trying new things can make you seem dull.
Telling the Same Story Over and Over
We're all guilty of this—myself included!
Often, we repeat the same story because:
- We assume the other person forgot we told them.
- Or maybe we forgot we already shared it.
Here's the problem:
People remember stories, especially if it's the third time you've told them. At that point:
- They'll get bored fast.
- They might assume you have no other life experiences to share.
Why does this matter?
When you fall back on one specific story repeatedly, conversations can feel stale, and you risk being seen as someone who lacks variety in life.
Dating should be a fun experience for both of you, and these tips can help ensure you bring something exciting to the table.
What do you think? Have you experienced any of these challenges on dates?