I see contradictory information on the internet lately. A lot of people recommend announcing your goals Like on Facebook, Or to family members. Because it forces you to be somewhat liable for your decision. Therefore you are more likely to accomplish it.
But at the same time, I'm noticing something else.
A while back, I posted on Facebook a goal that I have, And I got a ton of likes and comments on support. It made me feel really good.
Yay! I'm doing this, I thought!
But then I realized something,
I wasn't as motivated
What??? I mean I just posted it on Facebook, No big deal right?
Your Brain Thinks You Accomplished It
When you sometimes get too much praise for something you haven't' accomplished yet, You can often trick the brain into thinking that you already did it. This can cause you to want to skip the hard work associated with accomplish the goal, And instead not do it. Because you already got that "Mental Reward" associated with doing the work.
Maybe A Happy Medium
Trying both ways will help you figure out the best method for you. I find that telling a couple of people about my goals is a great way to make myself liable to accomplish them. But also doesn't give me too much mental satisfaction right away. I feel like I've found a great balance for me.
Do you have this issue?
It seems to be common. It also makes me wonder if that's why New Year's resolutions die out so quickly as well.
We announce them; Everyone has them. Then we work together for a while, But later our everyday habits creep back on us. And we don't go back to what we were doing before.
It doesn't help when a lot of people praising you makes you feel like you have a lot to appease or live up to with said goal.
It's better to just do things yourself and work at them goals. Then when you are close or finished you can post about it and feel the support and satisfaction of knowing you worked hard and when telling others all about it, their congratulations etc will mean so much more.
I said this year I was going to get out more, enjoy seeing more around my state... Well not with studies and not heaps of money haha, I ended up going to the museum in January though as part of it, was nice, but didn't do much more with seeing more.
Exactly :)
Aww! I wish you were able to do more, Maybe you can lay out a more detailed game plan for next year?
Hehe thanks. :)
Once I get my new PC I can work out my spare money and aim for doing more, even better if I get a job and do something each weekend. :)
This is the best Goal (for me) : To be...... to be Here Now ... in the Present. Not living for some future reward or goal. You have to enjoy being in the moment. Present. That is my goal anyway.
Along with the years, I learnt that motivation is VERY inconsistent.
At the beginning of this Steemit adventure, I was really motivated and wanted to grow my own little fanbase. A few days ago, I received my first little, few dollars payout (:D) and I felt really accomplished. Since I already got that "Mental Reward", I just completely stopped posting even though I am really far from where I would love to be. I think from now on, I'll stop looking at my wallet so often so I dont get that "Mental Reward" for every dollar I get XD
Thank you for this post, perfect timing for me! I already set a goal I'm hoping reach on Steemit, and won't be telling anyone :)
This really speaks to me. I have made similar experiences, but haven't thought of it like this before. It makes sense.
Interesting thoughts. I think we don't realise how tough it is to break through fear. Changing habits and avoiding procrastination is tough to do. The world believes we should focus on comfort more than growth
I definitely do better with a regular check in type support group rather than a 'contest' or announcing that I'm going to accomplish XYZ.
Of course I can do well at the announcing type thing, but only if its really short term. What you're saying makes SO much sense, though! I've always wondered why I tend to do better when I keep my goals to myself!
I love that! I'm glad you figured out a method that works for you.
I have One Goal and One Goal only ..... be happy.
Thats a smart one :)
Get that release of dopamine when many people like your post and comment with attention, kind of feels like what you would experience if you had completed your goal.
Exactly heeh :)
As someone who recently started a goals Mastermind group on steemit, I can understand why people don't like to tell others what they are working on. It can help motivate you but italso take you off course from your target.
With my goals group, I am trying to create an environment for people to share their goals and support each other. I believe sharing your goals can help hold you accountable as long as you stay on target with what you need to accomplish.
Creating weekly check-ins helps with this, but it's an experiment and I will see how it works and adjust it as needed.
@kaylinart You don't need to announce your goals to anyone. Goal Setting can be a personal thing.
This really speaks to me. I have made similar experiences, but haven't thought of it like this before
I agree. It also seems to me like it could make it harder to actually get down to do the goal when people are praising you for it--because they're expecting it from you, you might get stressed etc. Great post, thanks for the info!
wow what a post really...... like it😍😍😍😍
Thanks
On my point of my view I think the best aims is to able to believe what do you do and trust yourself you don't need anybody trust and you will reach to you goals by time ..
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Thank you again @kaylinart
Hehhe I like to write my goals in the back of my pocket calendar for myself to check in every once in a while!
Let success make all the noise is all I can say 😊👌🏽
I have goals I tell to all my friends and goals I keep in secret (to make it interesting and mysterious). As Mr. Spock once said: Do what feels right.
Remember most people on the internet are just as lost as we can be, we have to do what makes us feel good about ourselves.
Want to get support or pressure? tell everyone, want to add some spicy mystery in your life? tell no one. There's no right way just the way that works for you.
I think when I publicly announce a goal of mine, it makes me more obligated to complete it because others are now expecting that from me.
I think that’s s very good point you made about finding a happy medium. What works for one person may not work at all for another person. And motivation is fleeting, a deliberate decision is what actually accomplished things either way. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Interested in reading more
I think it just depends on the person.
Someone might work harder towards their goals if they announce them to family and friends on social media. Others might be better off just keeping their goals to themselves.
Do whatever works best for yourself!
For me it works a bit differently, I mean for instance I use to be always saying about my goal to go studying in japan (like almost literally in all my posts in here XD).
I don't use to post about it on facebook, but I do love the way people use to doubt that'll be able to accomplish and that this is "just a far away dream".
It was exactly the same when I starting telling people I was going to travel to japan last year see through peoples eyes they saying "Oh camon you will not be able to do it" are one of the beast fuel form me to do it, and show that they are not only wrong with the way they judged my capacity, but some realizes they are even judging wrong their own capacity.
This is just amazing for me =D
Yes and no :) yup, we don't need to tell everything and it is very organic, which changes time to time as well. However, the main goals are there always. That's why try to think of some unreachable goals, and putting yourself on the path towards it.
My take is to state some of them will do. Plus, no one really remembers what are your goals, it is more like a conversation between myself.
One more good point of announcing your goals is that some people may present you with opportunities as they are aware that you are making your way towards something. That may be a bonus :) which I found it useful too and happened to me.
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I really benefit from stating my goals. For instance, earlier this year I decided I was going to lose weight. And I didn't just talk about it, I shared the ups and downs, my approach, and more. I hit a plateau two months ago, one in which I'm just holding steady at this one weight. I still talk about it, I mention my plateau and continue to work at it.
At the beginning of November I set a tiny little goal of earning $1 per day on my writing. By the end of the month I had earned almost quadruple that amount and I'm on my way into the month of December to possibly quadruple November's income. I talk about it incessantly, and folks are really supportive. It helps me to see so many people rooting for me.
Awesome post once again kaylinart! I myself also tell a few people about my goals. I find it more important to walk the talk and hold off from telling people of my goals until i have already accomplished it or some of it. I only tell some people of my goals beforehand just in case im having a hard time and im in need of some push or motivation from them.