How To Handle Criticism!

in #life8 years ago

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Criticism can freaking hurt! Or downright be annoying.
But criticism is healthy because it allows us to look at our lives in another way so we can address problems that we may not have noticed.
Being completely self-aware and being able to see yourself through another's eyes is impossible. Criticism can give us a bit of that perspective.

Don't Take it personal

Haven't you noticed some so many people take everything personally?
What happens as a result?
You are less likely to tell that person stuff again!
Many things AREN'T personal. If you receive criticism that you aren't doing something the right way. Don't feel attacked. They aren't attacking you, And sometimes when people DO "attack" you. I still try not to take it personally. Sometimes people have bad days, and they act like jerks. I'm not saying you should be okay with it. But criticism isn't meant to hurt your self-esteem. It's supposed to be something you can learn and grow from.

Listen

Listen to what they are saying, This is your chance to make some improvements and to grow!
Listen to the criticism and if you feel the person is correct, Then come up with a game plan so you can make the necessary adjustments.
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Don't be awkward

Sometimes we get embarrassed, and we start to act awkward with that person afterward. Don't do that!
Not only is it unhealthy and can damage relationships. But that person may not want to help you again. I see criticism
As something that can be a "favor."

What To do if you get bad criticism

Sometimes bad Criticism happens, When you get criticized it's important to figure out what kind of place it came from, Did it come from a position of caring, And kindness? Or did it come from a position of anger and insult?
If it came from a place of anger. You may not want to follow the things above. You still shouldn't take it personally. Sometimes the person you are dealing with is just an asshole. In that case, their opinion wouldn't matter.
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Thank you!

If you receive criticism that you feel is unnecessary, Or ridiculous. You can always just say "thank you" as a way to let them know you've listened to what they said. You an then decide if you want to follow through with it or not!
Don't feel bad about not following their advice. Sometimes people don't know whats best for YOU! And you have a right to do what makes you most happy.


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Critism can be hard especially if your putting 100% effort into something what helps me if understanding that person critzing me or critiquing me only wants me to do better Great Article

I have a "listen only to yourself" moto. It appeared as a protective block to instant critique:)

I eat it all, sometimes criticism gives me gas ...😂😂😂

OMG!!! This made me laughh hahaha

Some of my karma causes fartage, it's worse than eating Brussel sprouts 🤦🏻‍♀️💨💨

;-)
every one has an asshole,and we sure would miss them after about three days!...lol
I try to take care of my asshole so it doesn't become a hemorrhoid...
but all he does is talk shit.
:-)
I hope you have a beautiful day!
namaste

Hey Lin, where does all your self improvement/psychology knowledge come from? ;)

I read lots and lots of books :)

Cool. I work as a psychologist. With the stuff that you're writing it sounds like you could take over my job in a heartbeat ;P

WOW really? Thats a huge compliment! Thank you so much.

That first step, of not taking things personally, can be so difficult. My ego oftentimes insists on taking every comment/criticism to heart. I guess I need more practice being criticised! Great post!

I think it also depends on the individual how he or she handles criticism...a strong headed person will always take it in a positive stride...also, the person who criticizes others should first introspect and then only comment.

EXACTLY I love your comment on this one! it's so true. When we take the positive side, We are less likely to take it personally.

thanks :)

A few days ago I made a logo for an organization that I am creating, and a companion critic both the same and almost everything I thought was personal. Now that I read your post I think I should reconsider and see that you may be right in much of what he said, thank you!

Aww I'm glad!! Sometimes critisim can be really helpful hehe.

Thank you @kaylinart.. Yes I needed to be reminded this!!!
Great post as always!

Thank you so much hehe.

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So good article, best wishes 🙂🙂❤

nice,but what should i do if im always socially awkward?

Don’t let other people’s opinions keep you from working hard towards a goal, do it at your own pace...Good Post!

Exactly ehhe :) Thank you.

Know yourself...the rest is noise.

Accepting criticism is hard! And I definitely am awkward with anyone if they have given me criticism. I will try to take this advice next time.

Don't take it personal is probably the best advice for anything and everything across the board. Great post! Thanks for sharing.

Cheers for this piece @kaylinart

So many times a well meaning person can anger when trying to help. It matters so much how criticism is presented.

Yes that is powerful to say, Thank you went insulted especially if you have to talk to the customer about your company. My thing when in a situation when customer is yelling and swearing I say, I'm sorry you had a bad experience. How can I help you with this call? Customer calms down and tells me exactly whats going on.

I've always thought of criticism as 90% to do with the criticizer and 10% to do with me. Definitely agree that one should take on board points made though

I've received all forms of criticism. My favorite is when people call me racist for expressing opinions that I have carefully contrived to not come off as racist.

Now that is only an anecdotal example, but to my point I've found what works for me with negative criticism and flack is to look inward. If I find that the criticism I've been given goes against who I am and what I believe than I simply ignore it. Water off a ducks back so to speak.

No point in letting people's anger effect you.

always take criticism as they didn't like what ever it is they are criticizing. Because why criticize what you like, and people only criticize what they don't like. That's how I always take it.

You made my day with this post! Truly! 💗 it!
The other pair of shoe is that I would need a lot more practice in many aspects you've described so well, although it's not easy for me to admit it.
Not going deeper in elaborating why, how and where from - I'm certainly going to bookmark this post so I can reread it whenever I need it.
Thank you! 😊

Thanks for the encouragement!

Interesting