But dont you also have the feeling then sometimes @exyle that everything you say is non relevant talking to him, and you would just wish that he would talk talk, and you do the listening?? Afraid to say something stupid that is totally non comparible to their shit?

example: I wrecked my car last week (true story) and because we dont have power so no washing machine, I walk in my work outfit. Im a nurse. Patients recognize me, but I dont always recognize them. Last week a old man shouted 'nurseyyyyy how are you'. I did recognize him, he was with me for a lot of surgeries and is now missing a lot of toes.
I reply: 'heyyyyy, Im good surviving and so, but how are you, why are you outside??'
him: 'yeah the storm took my house, and those shelters are too full to wander around. I need to keep wandering to keep the blood flowing in my feet before I loose more toes'
Me: ' So where are you staying now?'
Him:'outside!!! Im okay here, nobody bothers me! But why are you walking? You normally drive by here'
Me: 'I flipped over my car a couple days ago'
Him:'Wow, thats terrible!! Cant they get you a new ride, because you guys have to be taken care of '

And these words coming from a man sleeping on the streets after multiple surgeries worrying about me.... I was so embarrassed.... I gave him coffee, without daring to say anything more