We all lie. It’s a feature specific to the human kind, it doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a good person who chooses to tell a lie to protect someone’s feelings, or someone who tells lies for a living.
For example, not any parent thinks it’s okay to tell his kid how babies are made or who is Santa Claus. And one of the most common lies we all tell is when we’re answering with “fine” when we’re asked how are we doing.
Some psychologists say that the reason we’re lying is to avoid conflicts, out of convenience, because of an inferiority complex, or simply because we don’t want to upset someone. Even if someone “overlooks” to say something, it’s considered a lie. In many cases, in given de opportunity, a person would normally admit the truth.
In a study it was discovered that 60% of participants lied at least once in a conversation of only 10 minutes. What’s interesting is that the participants thought they were telling the truth. When we get to a point in which we lie without even realizing it, we’re not only deceiving others, but we’re also lying to ourselves.
People who lie to themselves are living in an unreal world. They have an inflexible psychological structure, they only accept perfection. Instead of admitting to the existence of an imperfect reality, they prefer to bend the truth in their favor.
All of these being said, it’s clear that the reasons for lying are multiple and complex and they can variate from simply protecting someone’s feelings, to deceiving others and ourselves because we don’t want to accept the reality, so we create a world that is perfect from our point of view.
But how do we know when someone lies to us? To identify a lie it’s important to consider the reason why someone could lie to us. The best example is that of a child who lies because he’s afraid of being punished.
If you’re convinced that someone has reasons to lie to you and you’re sure that he/she’s hiding the truth, pay attention to their body language.
For example, see if their voice tonality is changed, or if they are looking straight into your eyes.
Most of the times, when a person lies, he can’t look you in the eyes because he’s feeling guilty. Lies can also make people move strangely, because of stress. A liar will either have exaggerated movements, either he won’t move at all.
Some other things that may spill the beans are gestures like rapid blinking, too much smiling, excessive scratching or frequently swallowing.
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Lying is like a sandpit of quicksand. Also I disagree with your opening statement about lying being exclusive to humans. Throughout the years I have had dogs that will deceive you, in order to achieve a lack of over-watch, directly resulting in what it is they intended on doing.
Exactly the deceiving chimpanzee video that went viral.
The most common reason why we lie is to make ourselves appear better, bigger, more awesome, more virtuous, more talented.
We lie in a misguided attempt to make someone happy, to make another person like us more, to keep someone else from something we have done that we wish we could take back or just keep a secret.
We lie to make things easier. Because we are under the mistaken impression that a quick lie saves us from a long explanation. (Spoiler: it doesn’t.)
We lie to escape consequences we don’t want to face.
Underneath nearly every lie is the fear that we are not good enough.
Most people lie to save themselves, some lie to save others while have gotten used to it that it almost doesn't feel like a lie to them.
It isn't that easy though to know when someone's lying to you just by looking at the body language but at least its kinda a way.
People lies because by lying they got an excuse to run away from the truth although it's temporary.and yes the eye movements tells alot about a person.
Children learn to lie between the ages of two and five ... and lie the most when they are testing their independence!
lies distroy evry man @jwolf
Wow...
Good post......
i only manage to read the title and is here just to upvote and care less about what you write about . maybe i will read later . maybe maybe maybe
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great advice dear @jwolf
truth are reall
Nice one. It's an inevitable nature of mankind.
i think also in a way to give yourself a good feeling
nice post
I work with a guy who is a compulsive liar. He lies about everything. It is so annoying. I widh they would fire him already.
I often pay attention to a husband and wife habit, especially how to lie. for men, it is very difficult to attract lies in a possible way. the number of facial expressions, words and attitudes can indicate he is lying. but not with face-to-face meetings such as through chat or calling. Men more easily cover up lies in him. All that is inversely proportional to women.
An interesting post @jwolf.
Naturally, I try to avoid lying as much as possible, but sometimes, circumstances calls for them, like avoiding a troublesome fellow...
the superior force above all of them is the truth !!