How Loneliness Affects Your Life

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Do you feel lonely?

Do you live alone in your home? How much time do you spend with your family? How much do you rely on mobiles and computers to interact with others? How often do you have a feeling of loneliness? Do you spend more time on social media in order to avoid the feeling of loneliness?
In this modern world where we all are globally connected, we still feel alone, unsupported, distressed, and separated from others. Loneliness is a common emotion that people experience in this modern age. People try to avoid complaining and talking about the isolation that they feel in their daily life because of the fear of being judged.

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How loneliness damages our health?

The only mistake that we make while having the feelings of loneliness is we stop talking to others, we stop telling people about the way we feel, and we stop expecting from others to make us feel good. We, humans, are designed in a way that we need people to spend a happy and peaceful life. We all find it good to do life together. We all are wired to be people in some way or the other and when we isolate ourselves from this world, we start developing a different kind of problems in our body and soul. Yes, we all should have a “me” time but when we make it a habit to keep ourselves isolated and lonely, it starts damaging our body, mind, and soul.
Loneliness when becomes persistent starts causing accelerated aging with a lot of severe health consequences that sometimes lead to death. Some studies suggest that feeling lonely and isolated all the time is as threating to life as alcohol, cigarettes, and obesity. Loneliness holds the ability to impair our health by increasing the level of stress hormones and inflammation that in turn raise the risk of dementia, heart diseases, diabetes, arthritis, and even suicide attempts. It is associated with problematic changes in the hormonal, cardiovascular and immune functions of the body. It also leads to frailty which is a condition that occurs in old age when vulnerability approaches its maximum and independence is minimized.


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According to a new research, there are a lot of people today who feel lonely and isolated in their lives so they try to spend more and more time on social media so that they can fight their feelings of isolation and loneliness. People can feel lonely even if they are surrounded by thousands of people especially when the relationships are not emotionally rewarding.

Ways to overcome the feelings of loneliness
We all experience loneliness from time to time at some phase of life. It affects everyone at different times or states and in different ways. Loneliness is more than a fleeting feeling for some people as it harms people in many ways. The thing is, we all can overcome loneliness but it needs constant effort and determination.

Here are some tips listed down to overcome the feelings of isolation and loneliness:

Don’t keep yourself separated from others
When you are feeling lonely, it becomes hard to engage with people and talk to them but when you decide to keep your company only, it makes the matter worse. Loneliness is basically not feeling comfortable with people. When you do not let people come close to you, you are absolutely going to feel alone at some point in life. So, in order to overcome loneliness, try to talk to people and spend more and more time with them.

Try to keep yourself busy
Yes, it may be the last thing to do when you are feeling lonely but this tip really works. Try to engage yourself in some activity that makes you happy or join some group where you can talk about yourself and your interests. Develop a routine and manage your work in an organized manner. This will surely help you to overcome your loneliness.

Ask for help
Loneliness is a constant fight and you cannot overcome this battle alone. You need some people that can help you in making you feel good about yourself and can make efforts for you to get out of this phase. Find someone to talk about your situation and this will make a huge difference. Whether it is a friend, family, or relatives, try to reach out to people that can tell you a different message about yourself. When you feel isolated or bad, you need to hear from other people that you really matter and you are worthy. So, never be afraid of talking about your situation. Let people know about your battle so that you can have a life free of isolation.


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Thanks for sharing ..
The fact of loneliness generates a disease of depression that kills the person internally
We have to share life with others in accordance with the correct values preserve their rights
That is the nature of this human being

Values will improve your life and make others happy:
Smile in the face of others and humility
Patience especially in anger
Trust others
Do good without waiting for thanks
Honesty and honesty in talking and dealing ..
Firmness against injustice
(From the ethics of Islam)

WANT TO BE HEALTHY? DO GOOD FOR OTHERS! YOU WILL BE GRANTED OXYTOCIN (which helps your health in every way)

I totally agree with you!

I'm not lonely. Can't you see it?
I'm just sad...

Technology has amplified some of our more negative attributes.

There is a saying that men are more fascinated by things, and women are more fascinated by people. Generally, I find that to be true. This, at least in part, explains why there are more male engineers and more female doctors or psychologists.

But what seems to have happened is that males are using technology, so in essence these cool 'toys', to ignore people around them, and are in essence isolating themselves. Women are using it more for social aspects but too many of them are using it to gossip and entice relational violence.

We all have to do better.

Today we're constantly communicating on our phones, yet it seems to me that it has become a lot harder to develop intimte relations with other people and not just scratch the surface.
Theres nothing like good friends to keep you from becoming lonely and depressive!

Totally agree with you there. We speak to so many more people on a regular basis than in the past but there's much less real interaction.

With how easy it is to go from one place to another, it's also becoming harder and harder to stay close to good friends. I think having good bonds with family is really important.

Beautiful post. I do think there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. It's possible to be alone for days but still have the feeling connection with life and all that surrounds you, to feel supported and blessed and rich. That connection is crucial for enjoying life and finding meaning in it. Hope all of us find more of it all the time!

Been lonely could also be as a result of an individual's inability to communicate and relate with people.I know of someone who is scared to talk to people she's ashamed of her personality which led to people calling her a saddist ,cause she barely talks to people, she talks only when she's been forced to.
FEAR can also be a problem or shyness.@jasimg

Being lonely is a trait of intellect.
Staying appart from the stupid infected disease is the best
brain vaccination.

"Intelligent people tend to have less friends than the average person. The smarter you are, the more selective you become."

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People who are lonely take "keep yourself busy" in the wrong way and often get into addictions they aren't supposed to get into. I feel expressing your loneliness in any form of art is a good way to feel better.

I'm totaly agree with you , We spend much time in social media and we don't talk with my parents friends .. we should correct this bad hobbits

thank for sharing this topic
i'm following you now @jasimg

Unfortunately, Amercian society if getting more and more like other countries: withdrawn. It's frustrating that our neighbors don't interact and friends are getting harder to make. Hopefully that trend will reverse one day!

This post has received a 19.70 % upvote from @booster thanks to: @jasimg.

I love this post. I am going through emotional distress myself. About finding it difficult to share it with others in the fear of being judged, is so spot on. There are times as well where after sharing it they might not treat it seriously and throw jokes on you. I was advised to look for a medium where I can express myself. And found my love for music as my medium and it worked. I will share some of my composed songs here soon.

Me too! I'm lonely.

do something that is outside of your comfort zone.. think positive, life is to short too waste!

Thanks for breaching a difficult topic! I've also found that a change in perspective is also very helpful- when the feeling creeps in I'll ask myself: how long have I actually been alone? Do I have a way to find quality time with others now? Do I have anything planned with friends? Sometimes these questions spur me on to connect with others, other times they serve to remind myself good times are on the way.

Beautiful post! Loneliness can really impact us negatively...

the best time to evaluate ourselves is when loneliness...

Your publication seemed very good to me @jasimg, for years I felt alone even if I was surrounded by my acquaintances. Thank you for sharing this information so that people like me can see that you are not alone and that you can seek help.

I remember when my dad had died,we were all left out,no friends to talk to,family deserted us,all we had was each other,we moved on but my mum was not able to,she nearly died of lonliness

Thanks for sharing this with us. Lonliness is a horrible thing to be surrounded by and can cause so many more issues in the process.

There are many things that can happen in a persons life that can lead to isolation and just wanting to be left alone. For some, being alone is just fine and they are happy with it. They like the feeling of doing what they want, when they want to.

Most times people feel its "better to be alone than to get hurt" but this feeling of loneliness can lead to depression! So i advice we all try to be ourselves and come out of loneliness even though people hurt us and make us feel less of ourselves!
Informative post!

Certainly explains why I'm so addicted to FB...

I can't stand being lonely, but I fell like people are not so into meetings, lunches, walks together. They just prefer be at home alone, on social media.

Relax dude,look for what you like and try it until it is greater than your problems!

Loneliness can make you develop a life long personality disorder, where you become socially withdrawn, low self esteem and shyness. one mustn't be lonely.