Guilt is a Fickle Master

You want to make a change. You're trying to adopt a new habit, shake an old one, or all of the above.

It is inevitable that on the highway of transformation you will take detours. It just happens. You will stumble, fall, break, get distracted, etc. This should be well understood and accepted.

What is really important, is what we decide to do in these moments. A normal behavior is to pull out the whip and start cracking away at yourself. Yeah this might pick you back up, it might get you going again. For the moment...

The problem with guilt, is that it is a fickle master. It might propel you today, and destroy you tomorrow. Plus it perpetuates the act of associating your self worth with whether you pass or fail. Which often results in a cascade of ill effects.

I understand, you might be dealing with major health issues and you really shouldn't have ate those donuts. I also understand sitting yourself down, and reminding yourself why it is important to make better decisions going forward. However, you must also ask yourself this, "is it just to pay for the same crime over and over again?" The answer is an obvious no. Justice is paying for the crime once.

Afterwards throw the whip away and move forwards. Rid yourself of the guilt, forgive yourself, smile and understand that you will continue to improve. Learn to love the actual person in the mirror. Not the illusion you have of yourself, which is often a mixture of your "better" past, and your ideal future. Accept the person that exists in the present, and you will find the journey on the road a lot more sustainable.

Is this message coherent enough? Lol, I've been up all night so the brain is a bit sluggish.