hey man totally get where your coming from trust me most of it is just in your mind and a mental battle that you can win .
learn to love yourself first get ripped work out ride a bike or run let your actions define you not your insecurities find your passion in life and live passionately
let love find you ... when your ready it will blow you away
i have seen some ugly dudes with the hottest of women and its not looks that got them there it was just being a MAN ! they were just walking the roads that god laid for them !
find your path upgrade your operating system strengthen your mind and your spirit do things that are hard , do some martial arts , and eat good food!

battle your mind not your body!