Why being desperate to have a relationship may end badly for you?

I've been there too, in that moment when I believed that finding a person to share my life with it would bring me happiness.

Yes, when I find it happiness arrived but not for long because after a short period of time I realized that I didn't have a life to share. I became dependent on that person.

My entire world was spinning around her, that means I started to pay attention only to what she liked, wanting to spend all my time with her and don't do anything for myself.

And we started to fight..guess why? Because she had a life, she had hobbies and things to do and of course, she hadn't that much time to spend with me and on the other side, all I've had was time to spend and talk to her.

It became more like an obsession. How I said before, we both shared her life and in the end, she break up with me because let's be honest, who likes to be in a relationship whit a parasite.

Nowadays I've seen people who are desperate to have a relationship because they think that being with a person will bring happiness in their life.

Wrong! The majority of people who want a relationship are unhappy persons that wait for someone else to solve their problems. Just like I was.

You have seen these types of persons every day on social media, girls and guys who share drama with their posts. They use their time to find someone which they will dedicate their entire time, of course, in a bad way.

Another example is one of my friends who wanted to build a business online and start to be financially independent. For 6 six months, he was obsessed with his business. Meanwhile, he meets a girl and started a relationship which in the beginning were perfect. But after 2-3 months she started to complain that all he had in his mind was money, money, and money.

We all know that in the beginning of a relationship is that concentrated love and attraction and you spend all the time together texting and hanging out, but after sometime everybody needs to go back to arrange things in their life, fight for their dreams and reach their goals.

First of all, you need to decide how you spend your time and start to have some goals. Believe me, nothing feels better than having a life, to spend your time for you, to use your time to become a better version of yourself.

Having goals makes you feel better and reach those goals makes you feel even better.

Let's say that you started to have a life, after 2-3 month you find someone and you start a relationship if in the future you break up with him/her you have where to come back.

You will suffer but at least you are going to suffer living your life and you are not going to spend the next 2 3 month checking her/his Facebook profile and Instagram posts etc

When you enter into a relationship you don't need to live with the fear that you will lose that person.

I know this post is too short but the ''relationship'' subject is a big one and it may end with me talking about every part of it an believe me there will be an endless post.

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