Hello! I read your post and I see that you face something that many parents have face I think... I was like your daughter few years ago (I'm now 23), and since I studied education in university and I discovered the big world of alternatives education. Do you know about that ?
In France we have the normal education system, but more and more people realize that it's not that good for kids and they turn to other kind of education more base on benevolence, free learnings, confidence,...
And in many families it makes a big difference !
If you are interested I can find some articles or pages for you.. Just let me know.
And I think you are now doing what you can with the tools you have now. But already wondering is very good from you :)