I could relate well to this because am also from the eastern part of Nigeria where marriage is over hyped. All I can see here is a brave woman in you @ogoowinner and I know you still have a heart to love and a beautiful soul. You just have to let things flow naturally, get a paper and pen and get details of what you want and wouldn't want in a marriage,then give relationship a best shut. As for the man who abused you, I guess he didn't see the real woman in you and don't let him deceive you with the "I am a changed man" lines because he will never change. I guess you have heard of Domestic Violence, this is how it starts,in a relationship a man abuses you and come back to tell you he is changed,my dear what is there is already there, he isn't. In summary I would want you to drop the fear and start a relationship, that is the only way you could know the right man for you. Above all pray and tell God about all your worries and fears. Until then, remain beautiful and never let anyone look down on your worth. Lots of love.