Even when you are full of purpose and vision, some people can really get you down. I have a client who is literally rude, cold, unfeeling, and cheep. She teaches disabled children but in real life she is frigged and incapable of appreciation. For someone like me who is built to serve and add value, working with this women is very stressful since all that I have to offer is rejected. Kind of depressing.
So how do you deal with people like this, always demanding, always unhappy.
I am curious to hear what others have to say.
For myself, I am going to get in and get the job done and get out. Mostly, I will not invest any more of my heart. I keep that for those best able to receive it. That's the hard thing, though, holding back what you normally give freely. Sometimes it just needs to be done in order to preserve your juice.
Never let another person pollute your heart. It's best to keep silent when talking with people like this. Just do your work and express nothing. Why do I say this? Because unfeeling people cause those with feelings to be more expressive and more emotional. When this happens we get too wrapped up in the situation and this only makes us more sick. This is why I say give no emotional concern when others make to feel worthless. When people make you feel worthless, do not reciprocate the same. Just stand, serve and smile, and say nothing. Speak nothing, express nothing. Just know in your heart you are doing the best you can and never try to convince them. That's when you get really sick.
Hope this helps all the Genuine Optimists out there.
This is so great. I think in doing the best you can and not reciprocating what they are trying to cause is the only thing you can do. People like that are always looking for something to make them more upset. They feed off of that. I have learned that if you do not give them what they want they have to find something or someone else to take it out on. You have to be able to preserve yourself and your emotions for the people who deserve to see the real you and who will actually appreciate your efforts.
-Ashlee
The biggest thing to remember when dealing with people you may not necessarily agree with is that we are all entitled to our own opinions. How a person acts, what a person says, what decisions are made are all internal decisions. We have no control or power over anyone but ourselves. But what we do have control over is how we handle the situation. It is easy to just ignore the behavior with the mindset, "well, they suck and I know what's right so screw them." But that type of thinking comes from a negative place and then we lose the pure intentions we must always have when making decisions. In the case of the rude woman you dealt with, your intentions switched to just getting the job done for the sake of it and getting your money. When it really should've been to help the woman with whatever job she needed done through the service you are passionate about. Instead you should approach it as, "I've been rude and cold before, so I understand how she's feeling. I don't take it personally or blame/judge her because we are all only human." Don't let your intentions get polluted by others actions.