An African Sex Technique Where Men Get To Worship At The Throne Of Vagina, And Bow Before The Queen, Clitoris (A Researched + Respectful Steemit Original)

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Please Note: The following technique is a heterosexual practice.
I celebrate ALL pairings of love, but this particular technique does call for a penis and a vagina.

Tantra. Kama Sutra. Ayurveda. India’s ancient texts and traditions give us access to sexual wholeness and power. But India isn’t the only continent with prowess in the sensual arts. Mother Africa has deep insight into our physicality, too. In some circles, the men of Uganda and Rwanda are talked about in near-legendary terms because of a very special thing they do -- with their hand and penis -- that, orgasmically, sends the most grounded woman high into orbit.

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I will, to the best of my ability, describe the beautiful way of “Kachabali” as it is called in Uganda, and “Kunyaza” in Rwanda. Let's start with a poetic foretaste...

King of Kachabali. King of Kunyaza.

He reads her labia
as the sacred script that it is.

He is a p*ssy devotee,
and he has been endowed
with The Power Of The Hand.

And also, The Power Of The Wait.
He has the power to wait for her, without hurry
or expectation. He is genitally generous.
Circling and churning her honey-pot.
His wrist rotates… spins, like a whirling dervish.

Cockwise. Counter-cockwise.

He wants only to reunite the glans of his erect penis
with the glans of her erect clitoris.
He will let supple, sensitized skin do its thing.
He will not frantically plow into her…
like a big, dopey porn-ox.

This wise womb-worshipper knows
that most of the best-feeling places
in her vagina-temple are actually near its doors.

The lipsss.

So that is where he puts all his focus and energy,
simply sliding slickness all around there…
rhythmically tapping and gliding between her slippery folds
with his warm, silky head… penetrating ever-so-briefly,
and not even all the way…
This teasing, pulsing prayer makes her vulva,
with its 8,000 clitoral nerve endings, reach toward him
like a hungry mouth, wide open to this attentive King
who brings her from dry to drenched.
From thirsty to quenched.

Y'know misogyny? This is the opposite.
If ever something could transform
patriarchy into ecstasy, this is it.

Such giving Kings, your Queens adore you.


Kachabali or Kunyaza is a special kind of vaginal massage.

This African sex technique uses the penis head, rather than fingers, to massage the clitoris, labia and vaginal opening with circular, up-and-down and side-to-side motions. The vagina is also tapped or slapped rapidly, while he holds his shaft like a flashlight, between his thumb and fingers. I'd like to embed a couple sketch drawings I found online, but don't want to risk downvotes for possibly being too graphic, so I'll just link to them here and here.

When touched this way, many women experience multiple, squirting orgasms. Even the 80% of women who have difficulty with vaginal orgasms, find that the clitoral stimulation Kachabali/Kunyaza provides wakes up all the pleasure centers between her legs:

“Almost all genital erogenous zones of the woman are stimulated, many of them even being stimulated simultaneously.” (Bizimana N.)

Fingers are nimble, but they are also small. And some men’s fingers are a little tough and scratchy! But the beautifully contoured tip of the penis’ head is the perfect shape and size. And its ultra-smooth skin, which facilitates moistness, is the ideal texture to feel down there.

Is It A Primal Memory?

When they are rubbed and tapped together, in the form of Kachabali/Kunyaza, there is a special kindling between the penis and the clitoris.

Could it be because they started out as the same material? It took more than 3 months before the penis and clitoris ultimately distinguished into different organs.

Let’s Skip Performance Traps

Female ejaculation is very common with Kachabali/Kunyaza, and that comes as no surprise. Of course sustained pleasure, that really honors a woman’s anatomy, will create an explosive outpouring. Floods, reportedly.

In fact, “kunyaza” translates “to make urinate” (even though female ejaculate is not urine). And there is an affectionate nickname squirting women are known by: “Put a bucket under her.” In researching for this post, all the information I came across made a very big deal out of the waterworks.

But Kachabali/Kunyaza is a beautiful practice, even if a woman doesn’t squirt an ocean. So rather than create more performance anxiety for the man (“Will I make her squirt?”) or the woman (“Will I squirt?”), try this pressure-free way, instead:

  • Face each other.

  • Man, worship her. With the power of your hand, and the power of your wait. If you can’t visualize exactly how it’s done, and you want a little video tutorial, Google will not let you down ;-)

  • Woman, receive his worship. Be healed by it. And heal him, in turn, with your wide open surrender.

This technique creates a strong sense of intimacy and closeness. Men have also reported increased length and girth in their erection, because they so get off on seeing their partner’s gratified, responsive vagina.

Enjoy!

Primary Source : Bizimana N., "Another way for lovemaking in Africa: Kunyaza, a traditional sexual technique for triggering female orgasm at heterosexual encounters." Sexologies (2010), doi:10.1016/j.sexol.2009.12.003


Follow me at @erikaharris. Now living in Acapulco, via Chicago, I write about the cultivated inner life + liberated outer life. I also advocate the (re)joining of plants + people, because green minds grok better.

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Eh?? You mean not to just mercilessly pound the poon poon into oblivion? Blasphemy!!!

YES - Being sarcastic - been preaching tantric techniques for YEARS.. and boy to the men need'em!!! :) NICE POST!

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Bless you, @sashadaygame, for all you have done to decrease jackhammering of the poon poon!! 🦋💙

Fascinating! I had never heard of this before. I assume you are speaking from experience as this is extremely detailed but well written and humorous!

“Put a bucket under her.”

I've been laughing out loud for this lol (maybe put it on my bucket list 😉 )

Dane cook has a comedy bit about how guys usually use their dicks like some sort of "lip balm / chopstick" before they go inside, but I guess the whole point is less penetration and more stimulation.

Very entertaining piece. Not something everyone can write for sure. Upvoted and followed.

I actually visited Africa about two years ago do I thought it was cool how you touched on that.

Keep up the good work.

lol, i thought that nickname was hilarious, too, @bendjmiller222! bucket list... too funny :-) thanks for reading, upvoting and following. if you ever post about your time in africa, i look forward to reading it.

I will definitely do so and send you a dm on steemit chat if you are also on there.

Thank you very much for this superb article and for the courage it must have taken to speak in public about one of the most beautiful things in the world (isn`t that crazy?)!

@fabio, you just made it a whole lot easier, friend. thanks for getting it like you do! (and yes, vagina-phobia is absolute craziness!)

How very tantric! "p*ssy devotee" indeed! I think this article is a keeper...

thanks, @lensessions. 'preciate that.

On reflection, "p*ssy devotee" should be the title of a rap album. Just need someone to champion kachabali/kunyaza like Sting did for tantra.

sorry for the delayed reply, @lensessions. i think your suggestion is an awesome one :-) i love sting, and never fully appreciated all that he did to popularize tantra. thanks for pointing that out!

Can I just ask why you feel you need to use an asterix in the word "pussy". It is not a swear word. I can't think of anyone that would find it offensive. I'm sure no-one would downvote you for saying the word PUSSY loud and proud.

Anyway, that said, I really enjoyed your article. I studied tantra in India and Thailand. I had no idea that there were similar traditions in Africa. I have, instinctively, used the technique you elaborate upon and it is rather lovely.

Eleven months have passed since I wrote this. I've changed/grown some, and NOW AGREE WITH YOU, @deesunshine! If the platform would allow me to, I'd edit that '*' right on out... pussy, Pussy, PUSSY! #noshame Thanks for your gentle push :-)

How wonderful you were able to enjoy tantric studies in India and Thailand!

Most wisdom traditions that make it to the West, almost always EXCLUDE illumination from Africa. I'm happy you were receptive to this :-)

I am not a fan of the dreaded asterix.... much as I like the look of it, when it replaces a vowel in one of my favourite words... like fck or cnt, for example (and I use these asterixes ironically)... it gives me a pain somewhere just below the heart chakra. Everyone knows what these words mean, no matter how you write them... and an asterix does not sanitise them. I love ALL sexual exclamations, whether they are reverent and holy or downright lowdown and dirty... they are beautiful, resonant, evocative expressions of l*fe.

While I don't object to the word "pussy", it is usually considered very vulgar.

@stevenlytle, sorry that I'm seeing your comment a month late. I agree. The word 'pussy' is considered vulgar.

Being able to distinguish between not wanting vulgarity in my personal life, and also not being triggered by its inevitable presence from time to time in public life... has been liberating. And kept me a lady. 😉

exquisite! thank you so much! i am a student of this as well.

thanks, @emancipatedhuman! and lucky seda! ;-)

Thanks Erika... another great article...

Thanks for sharing:)

Thank you for enlightening me on this technique. I strangely have been doing this and never knew it's origin was ancestral lol.

Upvoted!! and Followed.......

you've got great instincts, @jermdawrit3r! thanks for following + upvoting :-)

That's was awesome Erica !