Not long ago, I said good-bye to a beautiful friend. Anyone that was caught in the wake of her life loved her. It was how she lived and loved- that was the golden thread that stitched together the ordinary seams of her life. Funerals are as much collective mediations as tearful goodbyes to one person. We use the departed life as a lens to assess our own. So, I ask you, how would you like to be remembered?
Seriously...
It is likely that she never realized the impact she had on people. She lightened my heart, my heart. Just by being her; her love - deep and deliberate. How is it some people just have that effect on people?
The soft petals whisper in the breeze... and I say my final goodbye.
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I always post this poem down at the bottom of my posts. It is one that has become so near and dear to my heart. I only post the most famous part of it, but, wanted to post it in its entirety today.
they set my aunts house on fire
i cried the way women on tv do
folding at the middle
like a five pound note.
i called the boy who use to love me
tried to ‘okay’ my voice
i said hello
he said warsan, what’s wrong, what’s happened?
i’ve been praying,
and these are what my prayers look like;
dear god
i come from two countries
one is thirsty
the other is on fire
both need water.
later that night
i held an atlas in my lap
ran my fingers across the whole world
and whispered,
"where does it hurt?"
it answered,
"everywhere"
"everywhere"
"everywhere"
warsan shire
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How would I like to be remembered? I like to think it would be as someone who tried to show love and kindness to family, friends and any person I came in contact with. Also someone who tried to help when a family member was in a situation needing guidance or help. And one more thing - I loved to interact with and teach children - even it was only to show them a ladybug or a tiny flower they might have missed.
How about you Denise? How do you want to be remembered?
I love that you love teaching! That is a Legacy that I would hope everyone would be able to leave. Can you imagine What a Wonderful World we would be living in come if that were true?Rhank you and me?? I think I would like to be remembered for what I meant to people, nothing more.
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I am very sorry for your loss. I know that is especially hard because you have had a couple now this year.
I want to preface this and say I am not being flippant. I am 100% serious.
I am not into the funeral thing for myself. No open casket, and no casket period. I would rather be donated to science. It is cheaper that way, and a bit more useful as well. I doubt it would ever happen, but if anyone ever wanted to remember the Old Guy, they can best do it by clicking on a YouTube video. (every view counts, I will be still be looking at the views!). I would say they may as well play any one of our podcasts. That would be a fine way to be remembered.
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I know I shall always remember the OGDS Podwonders ( :
Thank you for the words.
It has been a year for me, hasn't it? Well, not me, but, it has affected me in so many ways. Worse is that they have been taken young in their life. Seems like people are passing away very young or very old nowadays. Or perhaps that is just my experience of late.
I have been an organ donor since the beginning of time and now I find out that they won't take my organs because I lived in Europe when mad cow was very active - so the US organ donation team won't have them. So, even if I am donated to science, I will still be placemarked where the family is. I am not huge on funerals, but, I can tell you from one of my relatives that didn't have one, it feels odd and feels unfinished. I am at a loss to explain it, but, I feel like there needs to be something, however small to pay tribute to the beloved person.
Oh, yes! The podcasts! That is a great way to be remembered!
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H idear i am in tears we lost my aunt only 10 hours ago and this is the blog i see now here while i do my phc round. Its these moments that we think about what and how.
who Will we want this or that, i blogged about that before and that you need to think about what you are leaving behind and how you want everything to be arranged, be your own excecutive producer and do it while you can.
And how i want to be remembered oh dear opinions , they dont Harm me anymore, if my family remembers me as the one that was always there with the greatest amount of love and understanding i am proud,
And if they dont than they should read and view my library of life here on steemit, an document and mirror of me , myself and I
Hug for you for you loss, i hope the greef can have a place on your hart and life cause death sucks........
Love
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Thanks i lost my aunt yesterday and to get sucha Nice comment really touches my hart, thank you so much
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment and I am so sorry for the loss of your aunt. These posts here on the blockchain are just like a book of memories, aren't they?
Hugs to you for your loss! xoxo
Love to you, Denise
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Not my comment. It doesn't even have anything to do with me. :(
I know !!! And i dont know why i got it while i was very serious and very sad telling you about my loss,
But i keep on blogging dear
interesting question: how would I like to be remembered. I honestly would not want to be remembered for all my accomplishments in life. But, I would like to be known that a long time ago, I lived, made mistakes and, was able to get through it. Because, if I healed, they too would be able to get through whatever they are going through in their life and live to tell about it.
I want you to know that I think that is the most beautiful reply to the question. Most people would want to be remembered for something significant or good that they did, but, not you.
I applaud you. I sincerely do.
I hope you have a most wonderful night and Happy Easter to you!
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thank you.I just want my children/descendants/ other people to relate to me.
For whatever reason, it was an awesome thought.
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The farewells will never be easy... When describing your friend I felt identified. I think I'm always the one giving love to everyone. So I would like to be remembered💖
I felt your words. I hope that everyone in their lifetime gets to experience a friend like yours. I would like to be remember by someone speaking the same words for me as you have just spoken.
Final..... and not final.
Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Lovely flower and blooms.
{{{ hugs }}}
PS.... I hope I will be remembered as kind and funny and always willing to help by those that know me now. I doubt I will be remembered after the people that know me now are gone, just like the countless millions who have come and gone before, unless I do something notorious between now and my end. If so, I hope it will not be as a Darwin award for how I die. LOL !! hmmmmm
Love ya !
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Sorry to hear about your dear loss.
It is never easy to say goodbyes especially to someone so special and dear to our hearts.
I'd like to be remembered as someone who loved with an inconditional heart, always being there when they needed me...
I would probably say sorry for your loss, but I will not, since your friend is a gain for heaven. Be strong.
Hey @dswigle, so sorry to hear of your sadness. I always find funerals a very reflective time as well.
I would hope I would be remembered by my actions... when I was a teenager, I used to tell my friends that I wanted to be cremated, then they could smoke me... I digress...
You know already how I feel, and certainly, send nothing but love, healing, and light...
When I have experienced these moments in life... and they have been many, I listen to this song by Alter Bridge...
I hope it helps you, as much as it has for me, my dear friend...
Returning to stardust is never easy on those left behind, life is a short journey.
Being remembered by positively helping uplift others in anyway they need at the time to me is important to me Denise, your friend sounds like she uplifted your feelings, something you will carry with you for the rest of your time.
I am so sorry for your loss Denise. When we lose someone special like this it does make us pause and think about what kind of legacy we will leave, if any. You are such a a bright light filled with joy and love you too will leave quite a legacy. Just know you for this short time on Steemit has brought me such happiness. Blessings my friend!
When you have a fun and loving spirit, it’s easier to affect people. I’d like to be remembered as someone that brought smiles and joy into others lives.
My writing and photos will stay behind, that's enough...
My condolences for the loss of a dear friend!
That is a good question to ask -
I was just thinking of the question -
Would you be doing what you are doing if you knew it was your last moment? That kinda ties in to what do you want to be remembered for - if you have that in mind, than incorporate that in your life so you are doing or being what you want to be remembered for you would probably live a richer fuller life!
That's a question! It does not matter what we want. After my observations, if you leave when you are old enough then forgetting is almost immediate. My wish is that when someone thinks of me to say I was a good man.
I'm sorry about your loss (your losses), @dswigle ...
Sorry for your loss and from your post and kind words she clearly was an amazing person surely missed by so many
As for how I want to be remembered, this is a hard one, I would like to think when that time comes, people will remember me as someone fun to be around and caring, Yeah I guess simply that is it
Hi @dswigle so sorry to hear about yet another beautiful lost and of your sadness it is never easy in situation like this and no matter what we say only you can bring yourself out of this and cheer yourself up funerals to me just make me more aware that every moment in your life should be cherished and enjoyed. Stay strong my friend my thoughts are with you :)
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I know how hard it is to lose someone.
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I'm sorry to hear about your friends passing. My condolences. How would I like to be remembered? I want to be remembered in how I lived. Celebrated by visiting the places that I visited, memorable places filled with happiness.
I'm so sorry for your loss of a dear friend. Never makes sense, never will. Though we can always be thankful that we were blessed with a wonderful person's presence and lucky enough to have crossed their path in life. So many wonderful people of the world, but they just don't often make the news. Very heartfelt post, thanks for sharing it with us.
It's nice to see the entire 'finger on the map' poem. Maybe I've missed it from before on your posts. But it obviously has a much deeper meaning than I originally realized.
As for being remembered, I'd have to truly think on that for a bit. But right off the bat...I suppose more than anything, making people smile and laugh and enjoy life. It's all we have here on this plane, I feel we should strive to enjoy it. Though I know that is hard for some, who have been handed circumstances beyond bearable. Well, on to that positive side of things, hope your day is a grand one, though it is almost time for it to go to evening. Cheers
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Hey, @dswigle.
I'm sorry to read about your friend. It's amazing how a person like her can impact so many lives, when many of us are just trying to have some positive influence on our own self and our family. :) I think my wife is like that. I hope we can have a gathering of well wishers tell her so before she passes. :)
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