"They kept saying they wanted me to heal but what they wanted was me back.

Maybe they honestly couldn't see that their patterns were classically abusive or that I was trying very hard to keep space for them in my life. Maybe they could. Maybe they were doing it on purpose; choosing forgiving language that wove in accusations almost seamlessly. Apologies designed not to evoke forgiveness, but guilt."

I like this post, because it represents my actual struggles with my circle of influence. I dont know if they are doing it on purpose or if they simply dont realize what they do. But your post really wakes up some of my latest feelings about my relationships in my life!