Fear of Rejection

So I had this incident in primary school when I was younger where I had a friend turn on me/reject me from our group of friends.

It was hell at the time and we became friends again one or two years later funnily enough. Only to lose touch soon after.

Little did I know that this one incident would shape my entire life moving forwards.

It began to affect me hugely after high school, but I am sure it also did during.

As you can probably imagine I developed a huge fear of rejection and that's what I want to talk about today.

Most people have a fear of rejection, but if you think about it, how many times in our lives have we been rejected. The answer is probably not too many.

As a guy, we always fear rejection from girls. Putting ourselves out there and finally asking that girl out on a date only to have her say no, can be a hit to the stomach at times.

But whether we are in the situation above,attending an interview for a new job, or attempting to make friends with a new group of people, we mustn't take their reaction personally, because in all the situations, it's quite likely that they don't even know the real us yet, and if that is the case, then there is no way they could really reject us.

I've spent a lot of time approaching girls on the street during the day to work on my dating life and of course, I have been rejected more times than I can count. Being rejected more often, makes each one seem less and less of a big deal.

I've also been through a lot of job interviews, so I am quite accustomed to rejection, even though I still sometimes revert back to my old mindset of when I was younger and I was rejected at age 10.

The point of this blog is just to realise that rejection isn't as bad as we make it out to be. In some cases, it's a learning experience and in others, the reason for the rejection is more so the other persons problem and not ours.

I hope you have enjoyed this post.

Take Care

David