I am speaking as a 44 year old women and know that I need more in life than a good looking man who is toned. You need companionship and a certain amount of compatability. I know men my age goes for much younger women and the reason for this is beauty. It will all depend what you as an individual have come to know about yourself and what you truly need to be happy. Lets face it beauty fades, if that is all you went for then you are in trouble. Womens bodies change after childbirth and again after 40 the permenant downward swirl. You can help an over weight lady become skinny but you cannot change a nausty personality. Good luck.