My childrens father is one. Highly intelligent and people adore that, relgious but nothing touch his heart and highly selective in what counts for him. When he reach out to people helping them, there will always be some gain for him in it. You need to ask questions and communicate his way, if not you're not worth his time. He never takes responsibility, always blame someone else, me, my family or his children. Can be charming but only if there is something in it for him. I call him God GV, because he is untouchable, he has a set of rules to himself. At church he looks excellent with all his impressive knowledge and his hands stand ready for everything, but at home you can't get any action from him because there is no one to impress. He has a gospel to himself, a total set of different rules for his family - the people he controls through power play, none for himself but to do that which will impress others. They are terrible people always looking for excuses or someone to blame. Keep secrets and when it comes out you become the pig in the story. They will rather see you shatter into pieces than ever admitting to the truth and their flaws. He is quite the hero here, but if you look at his interactions when challenged, you will recognize the narcissist. He is the almighty and always just. He calls himself a loner and suffers from self prognosed autism (aspurgies) I think he calls it.