Are death and divorce the same?

in #life7 years ago (edited)

 I  can’t say I am a genius on those subjects but I would like to express my  thoughts with you. Since I am new on that bear with me and any recommendations will be much appreciated. 

There is a lot of analysis on this subject but let’s get started with the ‘easy one’. 

Death: Is an unexpected event which occurs out of nowhere.People often discuss the subject of death from different points of view. For example, where  are we heading after our death? Is there life after death? Who controls that?  Obviously,  I can’t answer these questions, but when you lose someone, especially  someone who matters to you it hurts and it hurts a lot. We have  accidents,  sickness and certain events that bring death and they are out of our  hands. Some can argue that death is a natural stage in someone's life.  I  start we death because I mention there are certain types of death  coming up, the difference with a divorce is that people can do  everything to avoid getting a divorce. 

Divorce:  Again an unexpected or expected event which most of the time occur due  to the lack of communication. I have a different approach to marriage,  I am one of those guys who just doesn't get it when it comes to  marriage. Let me explain, so we living in a society were from 0 up to  22-25 years old you are in educating yourself to get a job. Then you  have to find a job and then you get married then maybe  get a divorce. Ok, sometimes It works out! The problem here is that  people don’t actually LIVE or rather forget to LIVE.

Back to the title ;) 

Both  ways you ended up by losing someone. Death you can’t do anything about  it. Divorce, the result is in your hands.  Losing someone is a difficult situation especially if you have this ‘monkey’  in your mind coming up every single time and reminds you the great  moments you had with him/her. 

On a death situation you can’t bring  him/her back you only have the memories in your mind. 

On a divorce  situation since you know the other guy is still around you can catch up  if you are not selfish enough, but again depends on what happened and  you ended up with a divorce. 

My  conclusion is that death and divorce is the same when it comes to psychology factor of losing someone who was part of your life. The main difference is on the divorce situation you can change the outcome of it, on death situation you can't do anything about it.

I am waiting for your comments and thoughts. Thank you very much for your time.