My condolences. My wife and I went through some fertility treatments and it was more emotionally traumatic than physically painful. We did get there in the end thankfully and our ordeal was far less traumatic than what you have described so I am reluctant to even mention it. I just wanted to empathise with what you've been through. It is very tough.
Thanks @buggedout. I appreciate your comment and am so happy that things worked for you guys. I have so many friends who have gone through the experience at different levels, with different successes and failures. It is good for people to talk about this stuff. I think it helps folks in the thick of the struggle. ☺️