You make a really good point @arunava :O)

Shame is Guilt+ and by that I mean... Shame is Guilt ( I feel bad about having broke the social rules as I see them applying to me ) + the element of being observed.

Very similar, but slightly different.

Shame is a big part of why people aren't open about their issues.

We're told that we have to BE strong...

All of these are about

• Actions
• Identity
• Rules ( social )

i.e. who I am being when do the action of breaking a social rule.

This is what is behind so much of it. :O)