I think we attach our personal experiences with the drinks and that is why they become so polarized. We orientate our day around our first cup of either, usually, and so it becomes the defining moment of the day.
I personally drink a mixture of both. My French Creole family drinks coffee, but the Irish family that I married into drinks tea. So, while I drink a cup of joe in the morning, I have always enjoyed other options all day long ;)
I love that you have diversified your beverages to enjoy community experiences with your different family groups. It's kind of a beautiful thing to get to bond over something simple and delicious
Yeah we both diversify and force ourselves on each other ;) LOL, it all depends on who went to the grocery store last.
I all seriousness though, there are whole rituals around drinking the various different beverages, Morrocan Tea, English Tea, Paris coffeehouses, ASIA.