My mom and dad died 3 weeks from each other - everybody was saying I have to go and talk to somebody. Why? Would that bring my parents back and to be honest the more you try and encourage and preach for me, the less I listen. Some people benefit from it and some like me just don't. I am a very private person and will deal with my shit in my own way - maybe not the best way according to the books, but the best way for me.
There is no right or wrong way, I just know it was the darkest time I went through but I got through it and even though I will always miss them I can cope with it.
Only you can decide how you want to deal with it - there is no time limit and no right or wrong.
I am so sorry for your loss in such a short time. Good luck with the healing period. And do whatever makes your boat float.... for as long as you want. (just do not push your family away, but they also need to understand that you need some time by yourself and will handle it your way)
OK enough preaching - so you go and get yourself a beer or ten or scream or shout or hit something to make you feel better
Good luck - this feeling of despair too will pass , it just sucks big time.
Three weeks, thats a tough one. I feel for you even now. YEah it is rough, I am doing exactly what you say above, dealing with it as best as I can. I dont think it is the textbook right way at all but it is the only way that works for me. The days are dark indeed but I know that it will get better. Just got to get through the next couple of weeks which will be the worst. The funeral is next week and I am dreading that. sigh what will be will be
Yes life can be so damn hard and sucky, but in the end we need to go on, nobody wants us to stand still. I promise you it does get better and then when the darkness lifts you just keep hanging on to all the memories - good luck - loosing a parent is terrible.... loosing a mom is even worse.