You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
I read this once. It was from Robin Sharma... not sure if it was his original thought or he quoted someone else. But that doesn't really matter.
As soon as I let that sink in I realized how powerful that thought may become. The scary part was - at that time I was not happy at all about the 5 people. Back then I spent in average 10 hours at work and looking around I did not want to become the average of 5 of my co-workers (especially my boss!).
So that thought was one of the many that triggered big changes in my life. I finally started looking at my life from a completely different angle. Changing the people around me changed eventually changed almost everything.
I saw and realized things that I never really thought about before. It started a process that eventually became irreversible... and ended up with resignation and a completely new journey.
So now let's think about the following...
Why do people spend more time choosing their toothpaste brand in the supermarket than choosing who they spend the most time with?
Why do we end up thinking that "it is what it is" and you don't have a choice? Some people don't even think that they can change their careers, lifestyle, habits, etc...
For ages I felt like I did not fit in. For many many years I spent my time with people, who did not understand me. Have been to many family gatherings, corporate team buildings, week end getaways... where I felt completely out of place.
I have had many occasions when I felt the sharp ping of feeling lonely, although I was not alone and was surrounded by many people.
It's all about finding the right 5 people that I mentioned in the beginning of this post. The people, who will push you to grow. Those who will make you feel comfortable. People, who will provoke thoughts and ask the right questions. Those who will feel comfortable with my weird self and not expect me to change. Those who appreciate me the way I am and spending time with whom I will only get better.
I have already done a lot. I have eliminated all those people I don't want to be the average of. Now I am doing my best to find and hold on to those 5 people I'd prefer to become.
What about you?
Who are your 5 people?
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At home we say, "You can tell a person by the company that he keeps, this will tell you all you need to know about them."
we say something similar - "tell me who your friends are and I will tell who you are)"
Yes! Your peers are very important. I'm always chiding my children to hang out with only other children who will lift them up, not tear them down, in life. We are definitely negatively and positively affected by those we hang out with in life. We need to guard against hanging out with people who will tear us down too.
yes, true. But unfortunately many don't realize that...
A good reminder to be intentional about those we spend our time with, thanks for sharing!
welcome )
This is as much a mindset as it is the reality of the product you become. If you're not the best version of yourself and you see others who are closer, then it makes sense to discover who those people truly are. Just know that they aren't always what you had assumed, so we must also be willing to let go.
Hoping we can connect and continue to evolve and learn from each other! Remember, be yourself, because nobody else does it better -- Full #Steem ahead @anialexander :)
Much ❤ and respect!
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interesting you said that. Being yourself was one of the topics I was planning to cover soon ) Thank you!
Way to take action. I love the idea of heading a group of advisors even if they dont know they are on the board.
yup )
it's not always possible to change certain people b/c family and spousal obligations, however, your mentors can be authors who inspire you to be your best and whose words appeal because of the inward music they stir inside you :)
that's an option too... and yes there are some people you are bind to stick to even when you know that it's better not to
You bring up good points. People become set in their ways. If you are ready to be bendable then you are right, you need to find your tribe. Your tribe who you can benefit from, and vice versa.
having a tribe is aweosme
Shocking when you analyze that statement isn't it?
When I realized it I did much the same thing. I looked around and noticed who I was surrounded by and isolated myself.
I am now quite mindful of who I let in my bubble :)
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Wow it is so true. I have literally abandoned an entire past life in search of a better 5
sometimes you have to let go in order to free space for something/someone better
Find your tribe! Great post
thanks