This is more like irresponsibility. I mean you get paid to do something, you don't do it, so you'll either find a way to do it or return the money.
Helping others, or gifting others, should (in my opinion) have no strings attached of reciprocation. Otherwise it's not help or a gift - it's a strategic "investment" for possible future use.
I agree with you. It's just troubling when I try to have a sense of moral responsibility and I feel taken advantage of.. Is the world that sour, or should I change my behavior and start milking people I meet for my own benefit? I just can't cross that line and still feel good about myself.
P.S. Thanks for stopping by @alexgr I always look forward to your input. I love reading your posts when I'm on steemit.
Thanks :)
Neither would I.
I think every experience of this kind generally improves one's assessment capabilities of how similar situations will turn out. Then one can better predict what will happen in future conditions, and whether they are going to end up being used if they offer assistance.
I think it's an unfortunate fact that the mentality of the vast majority of people is usury-based. They see the world in a way where it all revolves around "what can others do for me?". This involves friends, other sex partners, even family in some cases. I have become very perceptive in identifying this trait and try to avoid getting used. Interestingly, this has made me more self-reliant as well. If you use others less (in order to avoid getting disproportionately (ab)used) then you end up doing more things on your own, even developing new skills. But then you are more in demand from others who identify your extended skill-set :P At that point you can either charge them (reasonably), or selectively help those you wish.
I'm speechless. What you said, quantifies this problem in a very articulate and definitive way. I especially like how you said "I have become very perceptive in identifying this trait and try to avoid getting used"
That's exactly what I need to become aware of.. it is sincerely nice to see someone else echo what I've been witnessing. Thanks for sharing.. it is really important for me to hear these words from someone afar..