Hey Lea,
We don't love enough because we fear too much. We fear too much because we don't trust in God enough. If we trust that God will provide all that we need, no more and no less, then we will love more and fear less. It's that simple. Trust in God.
Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean no on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
You are right...
I have a question for you, why do are men so afraid when things are not the way they expect them to be?
Lea, men are afraid of uncertainty, because we think that we can control everything in our "universe". Unfortunately, we don't realize that only God can do that. Once we do realize that God is in control, it lifts a huge weight off of our shoulders and allows us to become the men that God created us to be. We don't have to be "perfect" for God or people to love us. Amen!!
Praise the name of the Lord @acaiken