Strong topic,
I was aware of what you wrote here (maybe not able to explain it as detailedly as you did). I agree that you are probably born with it, as you are born straight or gay,...
That being said, whereas I do not think that non-convicted pedophiles should be branded as criminals, I understand the fear about it.
From the outside I can only look at it li I would look at a recovering alcoholic. It's a brave long and hard fight against oneself, but one opportunity, one moment of weakness and they will slide.
Perhaps this view is not correct, but in that sense I understand that people fear pedophiles, even when they have never laid a finger on a child. (I would do to if had children)
Kudos for writing about this post, and informing us though, with enough explanations of this kind you might be able to remove the taboo, be it ever so slightly.
Thanks, although I think it is different from an alcoholic as that implies one is recovering from an addiction, in my case I have been living 8 years since my last interaction which was not something I had planned, or expected or even tried to obtain, it was given to me as I slept. I have never had to intentionally lead any kids into any of my experiences, as shocking as that may sound, they were always things that just happened to me. Now things are different and my sex drive is nothing near what it was like at age 14, I believe my days with kids are over and now I am doing my best to like adults with very rare success, but successful nonetheless :)