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RE: @skitz - An introduction

in #introduceyourself6 years ago

Yes we have had more than a few discussions in the past, ones of great depth and usefulness to me, which is why I felt it only fair to inform you of who I am.

I do not believe I have reinvented myself, though. Perhaps it would be beneficial in many ways if I did. If I could replace my core values and see the world the way many others appear to, I think many of my problems would disappear very quickly. But it's a lot easier said than done, and I'm not convinced, whether it would help me or not, that I would like to be anyone other than who I am anyway.

I am surprised you seem to consider your English skills to be lacking. You are certainly one of the most eloquent that I have conversed with on this platform, and I do not recall a time when you have failed to articulate a point in a manner that I could understand. The unfortunate truth is that many who are native English speakers are unable to express themselves with clarity nowadays, so your ability to do so, and to do so very well, is quite astounding given it is a secondary language to you.

It's not really an effort to remain anonymous. I have another account I am using also, where I write fiction. If anyone asked me if I am SoS I would not attempt to hide it. But, I know how much preconceived notions of a person can alter a reader's perception of the words they are sharing, and so I can find very little reason to make a spectacle of who I am. Should I ever manage to acquire the funds to buy back my account, I will write on there again and the community can know that I am back. But in the mean time, I would really just like to keep a quiet presence and work towards improving my mind and my writing, and avoiding discussions and arguments about abuse I have realised I do not have the power to prevent.

I am indeed from the United Kingdom. Glasgow in Scotland to be specific.

It's my expectation that we shall be conversing again soon, so until then. Goodnight, and I hope you rest well.

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I should have better said that your way of working on a topic follows a new approach. Your announcement to try something different here on this account was a reason for me to respond to it. When I translate my German into English, "reinventing yourself" is more like that. You see, it is indeed sometimes difficult to be linguistically correct.

I'd consider it unspectacular to reveal your identity. For my part, I appear with my real name and think it's not a form of a big deal to do, only that my readers can immediately see that I'm female and from Germany. I find this information useful in so far as the transnational conversations often lead to great misunderstandings in which, for example, political and economic circumstances differ so much from each other that you can completely misunderstand one point of view if you don't know where the other one comes from. I also identify with my gender, even if you really have to be careful not to overemphasise it. I like to know whether I am dealing with men or women, how old someone is and where they live.

My first questions in dialogue are precisely those that support me in being able to assess others.

This does not mean that I do not think that anonymity is not also attractive and that, for example, one wants to talk openly about some matters in which the identities of others - which I want to talk about - remain protected.

Also, because of anonymity I had some really funny encounters and misconceptions of a humorous nature which wouldn't have happened if I would have known gender, nationality and age.

But it is also very true what you say: the preconceived view about someone changes the feeling for the relationship. When I thought I didn't know you, you were like a blank page to me. Now that I know that we were already in touch, it has changed. But since you knew who I was, you balanced that aspect, which I highly appreciate. But it would probably have been quite exciting to keep the secret for a while, wouldn't it? ;-)

Perhaps there is after all a barrier in translation. This makes me wonder if I have not misinterpret other things you've said in the past.

I care less where someone is from, their gender, or how old they are. It's as I said about preconceived notions. I feel that if you just listen to what someone is saying and have no other information about them, your biases will be removed and you can just hear what they're saying. Of course, this in itself is a skill. Because it is easy if you're not paying attention to start projecting said biases onto people who are otherwise anonymous to you. It's easy to think, this is a forty-something man, I can tell because of how they speak. But if you can try and leave all judgements at the door, I find that communicating with someone can be much more fruitful when the words take priority over anything else.

Any excitement I might have gained through remaining anonymous would have been overshadowed by a feeling of dishonesty. Anonymity, for me, is better suited when you're talking to someone who you also do not know. When conversing with someone you do, pretending to be someone you're not, or hiding your true identity, seems entirely disloyal.

Are you aware that well over 50% of messages between people are based on body language?
;-)