Credulous wedding rituals

I will speak about South Indian weddings (specifically GSB weddings) because that's where I belong. I am from a small fish eating Brahmin community named GSB with it's roots in Mangalore, Goa and Cochin in southern India the community is well knit where in every family is inter related to each other in some way or the other. Calling GSB's the only fish eating Brahmin community in southern India would not be wrong because here brahmins are considered pious and pious people don't eat non veg.

Gowda saraswat Brahmin's (GSB's) are very simple people who basically follow the teachings of 'Kashi Mutt'. Our weddings are not very extravagant and are attended by close family and friends. The ceremonies start early in the morning and are packed by lunch time. The bride has to change her saree multiple times before she is completely exhausted. The bride is carried to the wedding stage by her maternal uncle on his arms. The elaborate rituals teach the new bride on how to take care of her husband and his family right from cooking to tidying up the bed.

Now, what bothers me is the famous 'kanya daan'. This is where a father gives away his daughter to her groom not before taking a promise from him that he will take care of her in happiness and through sorrow. It is considered the best charity that only the lucky ones are blessed with. But then, why is the bride's father made to wash the groom's feet and stand before him with joined hands ? That makes the dad look completely helpless as if he is begging the groom to take care of her. Bride's father has given the groom a wife, isn't it the groom's responsibility to thank him for this wonderful gift ?

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This kind of rituals make men feel that they are superior to their female counterparts. That's where cases of domestic violence is watered to grow. It's very important that men understand that times have changed. A woman is equal to her man in every aspect.

Some would argue that there are families where in a woman stays at home while the man earns, then I would love to explain to you guys that a woman puts in her time and effort to nourish your kids and look after you and your parents well being which would have costed you heavily if you would have hired a help and I can bet that a help would not do the work as efficiently as your wife is does. Kids are best nurtured when under the care of their mother.