Teaching Children Humility

in #humility7 years ago

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WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW

In recent decades, parents have been encouraged to yield to their children’s desires; to praise them generously, even if they did nothing praiseworthy; to withhold correction and discipline. It was thought that if children were made to feel special, they would grow up with healthy self-esteem. But what have the results shown? The book Generation Me states: “Instead of creating well-adjusted, happy children, the self-esteem movement has created an army of little narcissists.” Many children raised with unconditional praise have grown up unprepared for disappointments, criticism, and occasional failure. Because of being taught to focus on their own desires, they find it hard as adults to form lasting relationships. As a result, many of them suffer from anxiety and depression. Children develop real self-worth, not by being constantly told that they are special, but through genuine accomplishments. That requires more than just believing in themselves. They need to learn, practice, and refine chosen skills carefully. They also need to care about other people’s needs. All of this requires humility.

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WHAT YOU CAN DO

  • Give praise when it is truly deserved : if your daughter scores well on a school test, commend her. If she gets a low grade, do not automatically blame the teacher. Instead, help her to see how she may do better next time. Reserve praise for actual accomplishments.

  • Give correction when necessary : This does not mean that you should criticize your child for every mistake. But serious errors should be corrected. The same can be said about wrong attitudes. By giving such correction in the spirit of love, you will teach him humility without hurting his self-respect.

  • Prepare your child for life’s realities : Indulging a child’s every wish can cause him to feel entitled. Rather than shield your children from every hardship, prepare them for the challenges they will face as adult.

  • Encourage giving : Prove to your child that “there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.” (Acts 20:35). Allow your child to see your joy and satisfaction as you care for the needs of others. That way you will teach your child humility in the most powerful way—by example.

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Very nice post. May every parent learn and teach even just some of those skills and attitudes...

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