Men have different stories about why they cheat. The truth is, your man will not tell you the real reason why he cheated on you. Why? it is because he doesn’t want to make the fight bigger.
In this article, I will tell you about the ff:
- The Reason why men cheat
- How to avoid cheaters
- The Most likely Solution to cheating partners
THE REASON WHY MEN CHEAT
I will tell you this, It will never be a woman’s fault unless she cheated first. If a man tells you that he cheated because he was tempted or because he is just a man, he is lying. He knows why he cheats but he won’t tell you. Because it will hurt you so much.
The only true reason that they cheat is because they are not that sexually attracted to you. There is no other reason, it is not about his ego, it is not about you.
Men cheat because they find other girls more desirable than you.
The problem with men is that they don’t put sexual attraction on their first criteria when finding a partner. And even if they put it first, it will not be possible for every man to find the most sexually attractive girl for him. There are lots of things he needs to consider first like his looks, status, and wealth. That is why he ends up with a partner within his range or level even though he is not that satisfied with her appearance.
What happens is, when someone more attractive than you enters his life, he gets excited and will see it as a chance to have a better partner.
Then maybe you will ask, So why is he not leaving me?
There are so many factors why your man is not leaving you.
First on the list is that he is afraid to hurt you, not because he loves you, but because he doesn’t want to be blamed. they’ll act cold on you until you got fed up and decided to leave voluntarily.
second on the list is convenience, let us say you’ve been living for a couple of years now, you already knew each other’s attitude. You already know his friends and relatives. Unlike with this new girl that he needs to start all over again.
The third is monetary issue especially if he is not rich and you have children.
Then there is also the Law if you are a married couple.
Now… not all men are cheaters, it is up to you ladies to pick the right man. Man with good moral values and fear of God will never cheat on you. They will tell you that they don’t love you anymore and leave you but they will never cheat on you. Only guys with poor moral values cheat.
THE MOST LIKELY SOLUTION
If you are not yet married and you don’t have children, the only solution is to leave that guy. He will continue cheating no matter what, not unless he is too old to do that. Avoid sticking into a relationship hoping that your man will change. Don’t waste life’s precious time by clinging to that hope.
The only time that a cheating man will change is when he finds the right sexual partner. or when he is already old and impotent. Cheaters don’t see cheating as a great offense. They will always find a reason to justify their cheating acts.
If you are married then let me give you this advice. I know it is difficult for a married woman to separate from his cheating husband and separation is not your first option, so here are some things that you can do to prevent him from cheating.
Now… we are only taking a chance here OK? there is no guarantee that you can prevent your husband from cheating by taking my advice.
The first thing that you need to do is not to be stressed, Having a cheating husband is like having cancer, you know it is impossible to remove it that is why you are just making the best out of your life. Hoping one day the situation will change.
Be nice to him, this is one of the best strategies to keep your man at your side, your cheating man is trying to look for a fault in your relationship. Don’t give him the chance to use your nagging as an excuse.
Men have difficulty in leaving wives that are good because even though they are cheaters, they also consider peace and harmony in a relationship.
Make yourself pretty and attractive. No, I don’t mean that you seduce him. Try to look your best especially when you are out with him.
When he is asking for sex, make him more excited by teasing him. Give him that extra performance. Cheaters always seek sexual adventure in their life. They feed their mind with sexual fantasies. buy sexy lingerie if you can afford one.
Pray Hard! Ask the Lord for guidance, He knows what is better for us
HOW TO AVOID CHEATING MEN
The problem with most women is
- they tend to grab guys who are available especially if they are not pretty. they thought that it is their only chance to have a partner.
- they fall for guys who are handsome, rich, or with good status easily without even checking this guy’s other traits.
- They fall for a guy’s sweetness.
Ladies, I am telling you, If these are your criteria in finding a good man, Good Luck!
It is better to stay single forever than to be with a cheater
To avoid cheating men you need to go back to your ancestor’s values, Courtship! most girls nowadays don’t value courtship anymore, they think it is too old-fashioned which is why when someone they like flirts with them. They grab it and accept it as their partner after a few days.
These are the things you need to look at to avoid cheating men.
His opinion about God – a good man who believes in God will try his best to obey him as much as possible.
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His Family and Family Values – Learn to know more about his parents and siblings, that will tell you more about the man.
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His Friends – If the majority of his friends are not trustworthy there is a chance that he is also not trustworthy.
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His character – is he vain? does he like to be the center of attention? These are the characters that your man can easily be tempted by other women.
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His Hobbies – this is not a fact but most cheaters like to collect. Their hobby is collecting things that they like.
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His goal in life – If a man’s goal in life is to have a simple life with a good partner and kids, that is a plus sign. But if his goal is to be rich, powerful, and to be well known, His goal is only about himself.
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Thank you sir Dens for sharing this post - somehow I can relate to this as I experienced it first hand. Kinda sad as it is accepted by society and as a part of the "machismo".
This is the best thing to do! LEAVE while you still can. Mahirap ang divorce and separation sa atin. Never settle for less value oneself more.
Hindi lahat may option to leave eh, yun ang malungkot :)
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Very good read. I'd just like to add that should a woman be ever in the position where she has to deal with a cheating bastard, her first solution should be empowering herself. Not just make herself physically attractive, but earn her own money, do things by herself and show that cheating baboon that she can tend for herself.
Married or not, with kids or not, definitely leave that sucker right away. The woman should not be stressed out with the burden of keeping their family together when her husband starts cheating. And, if they have kids, leaving the cheating husband will teach her son that he should be honest and loyal to women. It will also teach her daughter that she should never EVER settle for less.
Trust and respect are the foundations of a healthy relationship. Man and woman should both work on it.
May hugot yarn mars? Hahah G na G ah.
Pero sa true dito relationships should always be worked on by both parties.