Hugs to you Anna! It can be a shock when unexpected like that. For me, the best thing was when I could let go the fear of feeling the pain, allow myself to feel sad when sad, but work to keep those times brief as possible and learn to re-focus on the happy times we had shared. The good times when we made each other smile, and carry those pictures and memories around in my head.
I used to not be a believer in past or future lives, at some point that changed (at the very time I started digging deeper into research and critical investigation btw). For me, someone that had pushed away the memories and pain of loss for decades, it was a huge change to finally welcome that persons memories, thoughts, and spirit back into my life.
Take your time to grief in the time and way best for you. Find some way to honor him. Then I hope you can also find a way to welcome the happy memories, thoughts, and visions back in. Feeling him looking over once in awhile, maybe even hearing advice or comments on things now and again.
What would his advice be to you now?
Big Hugs.
K
Hey Kris, sorry for coming back late here, craziest shit happens but I wanna thank you still for your words! Hugs!
Ah, no worries, I meant to reply to your last one as well, but had a crazy few days at work. Full moon brought them out this month for sure. I really feel for you going through the pain with "the family", it's really disgusting to me how so many people turn into vultures and hyena's fighting over scraps from people they didn't even bother with in life. Step back and view from detached. It's all really just a play happening in the distance. Focus back on yourself and gathering more positive folks (or pets) around you. Plenty of virtual hugs and real hugs when you're ready to move past that painful day.
The vultures have arrived :(. I would have thought they'd ask the one living in a community with him how he lived or what may have been important to him. Nothing. Where are the values and the rest is trash. I live in this house too and my stuff is mixed all over. The faces when I said that I have to go through the house to recover belongings of me and those in Maiks interest, not what I expected. They looked at me like I'm a thief or what. My trust in moral or ethics has been shattered a lot lately.